Fatherhood is in the limelight.
Since the passing of the Labour Laws Amendment Bill, a historic parliamentary vote in November 2017, the irreplaceable role of fathers and father-figures is being recognised.
Created by Sonke Gender Justice (Sonke) and the Human Sciences Research Council (HSRC) along with numerous organisations, the State of South Africa’s Fathers 2018 offers a big picture view of what fatherhood looks like in South Africa today, and is the first of its kind.
The detailed account places a strong emphasis on the many expressions of fatherhood, as not only biological but also social and self-assigned, calling for society to shift its view of fatherhood as a role encompassing both the breadwinner and caregiver.
This academic examination of fatherhood highlights the positive ways men are embracing their roles as fathers, and the positive effects a father has on mothers, children and even themselves.
The report makes it clear that due to the societal view of mothers as the sole caregiver, past conversations on parenting have excluded men and identifies key areas in most need of development and further study.
Here are 12 significant findings uncovered about fatherhood in SA.
1. There are many kinds of fathers
"There is no typical father in South Africa. There are many types of fathers and many types of fatherhood in the country."
From absent fathers and co-resident fathers to non-resident fathers and social fathers, the report details the many faces of fatherhood in the country. The definitions offered for each include:
- An absent father is a parent (biological or not) who is neither physically nor emotionally nor financially present in a child’s life.
- Co-resident fathers are biological parents who live in the same home as their children at least 4 days per week.
- Non-resident fathers point to a parent who is actively involved in their child’s lives but who do not live in the same household.
- Social fathers describe father-figures, self-assigned fatherhood by either the individual themselves (who may or may not be related to a child), extended family or the community. This includes those who already have their own biological children.
According to the report:
- 36% of SA’s children live with their biological fathers.
- 35% live with a man who is not a blood relative.
- 16% of children’s biological fathers are deceased.
2. Our political history has shaped the present state of fatherhood
The report recognises the far-reaching impact of the nation’s violent political past on the role of fatherhood today, linking poor parenting and absence to “the socio-economic legacy of apartheid and, over a longer period of time, slavery and colonialism…”
The prevalence of economic scarcity and lack of supportive social networks found among non-white South Africans are identified as key reasons for absent fathers.
Highlighting the 2016 General Household Survey, the report found that:
- 43% of black children (more than 6 million) live with a mother only and only 29.5% live with both biological parents.
- 35% of coloured children (nearly 538 000) live with a mother only, and 780 000 (50%) live with both parents.
- 10% (about 37 000) of Indian/Asian children live with a single mother, while 4 out of every 5 children live with both parents.
- For white children, 17% (roughly 169 000) live with their mothers only, and 76% (around 748 000) live with both parents.
Image supplied by Sonke Gender Justice/Photographer Sarah Isaacs
3. The impact of an absent father
From mental health and healthy relationships to self-esteem, the report documents both the positive effects of a father’s presence, as well as the negatives of his absence.
Following on from the South African Institute of Race Relations report, growing up without a father makes children “more likely to experience emotional disturbances and depression”, and boys in particular are more likely to display aggressive behaviour.
On the other end, girls who grow up with a father will display “higher self-esteem, lower levels of risky sexual behaviour, and fewer difficulties in forming and maintaining romantic relationships later in life. They have less likelihood of having an early pregnancy, bearing children outside marriage, marrying early, or getting divorced.”
Despite a mostly positive result, the report warns against assuming that a physically present father is always a good thing since an absent father is considered better than a present but violent one.
“The fantasy of the loving nuclear family... is something South Africa needs to be disabused of. It is possible that life in nuclear families with a father present can be as uncaring and violent, or as loving and supportive, as in other forms of family.”
4. When fathers are absent the reasons are mainly economic
The study shows that several factors determine whether a man can be involved in his child’s life, but poverty is singled out as the main reason men aren’t ‘allowed’ to take on the role.
Apart from poverty, other factors mentioned were:
- past and present incarceration
- family factors such as separation, divorce and re-partnering
- changes in social and residential arrangements
- costs related to cultural practices such as payment of inhlawulo and lobola which "prevent poor fathers who want to be involved in their children’s lives from doing so”
- societal judgment
The document shows that in addition to a lack of resources, for young fathers in particular, societal judgement also keeps them away.
“The family of the young mother will often not support the involvement in their family of a young man whom they may perceive as being ‘irresponsible’… even where the young man himself would like to act as a father… he may have little ability – financial, social or legal – to press for access to his child.”
5. Living with a child is not necessary to be a good father
The report takes great care in acknowledging the difference between absent fathers, non-resident fathers and fathers who are physically present yet emotionally uninvolved.
Despite physical separation, a large percentage of non-resident fathers remain fully invested in their child’s lives through financial and emotional support, as well as providing practical care.
The report flags that, contrary to popular views, a father who lives with the family (co-resident fathers) is no guarantee of a warm and loving support system and may be even more distance emotionally, providing little to no care to their children.
Referencing a study conducted in Gauteng involving 10 non-resident fathers, when asked about their status, the men shared that it was “undesirable and emotionally distressing”.
One man specifically said:
“It pains me every time I think of him. Some of us are absent. Not by choice. Whether you are present or you are absent, the fact remains you are a father.”
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6. The number of children living with a single father is tiny
The report confirms that regardless of income and location, less than 5% of children live with a biological father only.
“The number of children who lived with their father only did not exceed 4% in any province.”
This amounts to:
- Just under 500 000 black children
- Nearly 50 000 coloured children
- Close to 30 000 white children
- Roughly 4 000 Indian/Asian
7. When talking about practical childcare, fathers don’t do as much as mothers
The report details the number of men who act as the primary caregivers in their home, revealing that “for every eight hours of unpaid care work done by a woman in South Africa, only one hour is done by a man.”
Research confirms that just 11-12% of SA’s kids receive primary care from their dads.
Studies found that men who are active caregivers displayed “gender equitable attitudes”, and the tasks they completed include doing the laundry, talking to their kids about personal problems and assisting with homework.
The report recommends that further research needs to be done to understand what motivates contribution and the reasons men fail to provide care.
8. A father’s work isn’t always acknowledged, even by dads themselves
This apparent lack of caregiving by fathers, however, could be explained by another study.
According to the report, contributions by men are not always recognised as care and are dismissed by both themselves and their partners as something that is only done now and then.
It concludes that due to social conventions, men are less likely to receive acknowledgement for the same tasks as mothers.
"The prevailing social norms did not anticipate men engaging in activities such as caring for children, domestic chores or emotional support… although men were clearly observed performing these roles, both men and women tended to either neglect reporting these observations or to dismiss them as aberrant.”
The report warns against this tendency as “such involvement contributes positively toward shaping discourses of men as fathers.”
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9. Father involvement in the first 1 000 days can reduce the possibility of postnatal depression
No other phase in a child’s life is counted as more vital than the first 1 000 days.
Described as the period from conception to pregnancy, and up to a child’s second birthday, the first 1 000 days marks a vulnerable time for a baby’s brain development and a key time for a father’s involvement.
10. Inhlawulo and maintenance
Whereas maintenance merely enables financial support, the report suggests looking to the cultural process known as Inhlawulo as a prescribed path to paternal involvement.
Similar to lobola, a man makes a payment in either money or cattle to a woman or young girl’s family for illegitimately fathering a child.
“Inhlawulo is essentially about acknowledging paternity as much as granting permission to a man to be involved in his child’s life... These arrangements and practices clearly show that not only biological parents but families too were involved in raising children."
Despite the potential barrier this poses to men who are not financially stable, the practice encourages involvement in a way that maintenance does not.
11. Men are least likely to apply for a Child Support Grant
Despite being gender-neutral, the report found that “over the past 20 years on average only 2% of the total number of CSG recipients were men” and in these cases all funds were used to cover household and child-related expenses.
12. Fathers aren’t always considered in studies
One of its most unfortunate findings is that family matters often default to the mother, where data, surveys and studies themselves neglect to include fathers.
“An unfortunate omission in national surveys on reproductive health, children, families and the general population is the relative lack of data on fathers. Some surveys and reports provide a useful picture in including some characteristics of fathers. However, most lack data on fathers.”
Never before has this much academic research gone into understanding fatherhood in South Africa and the report acknowledges that more needs to be done.
“The State of South Africa’s Fathers report has been developed as an advocacy tool to influence policy and law reform and monitor implementation of current policies and laws related to fatherhood; and as a catalyst to influence... the language currently used in talking about fatherhood.”
Follow this link to download the full report.
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