WATCH: 'I try not to feel guilty': DJ Zinhle and Enhle Mbali reflect on working mom guilt

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Sincerely Yours Enhle Mbali interviews Dj Zinhle
Sincerely Yours Enhle Mbali interviews Dj Zinhle

In a Touch HD show entitled Sincerely Yours, celebrity moms Enhle Mbali and Dj Zinhle got to share a table, opening up about times when they've felt like their work was depriving their children of a much needed bond with their mother.

Zinhle shared the advice she gave to her best friend Pearl Thusi, she said "I had a conversation with uPearl. She's got two children and she says that she is struggling because she's shooting Queen Sono. She just feels like her children are not going to be okay if she continues to work this way.

"And I said, 'Is this what the children told you or is because you've decided for them?' And she was like, 'Oh okay, I never thought of it that way'," said Zinhle.

She confessed to Enhle that Kairo, her daughter with singer AKA, does sometimes ask her questions when she has been away for work, admitting that when she does it makes her cry.

"I try not to feel guilty about how I am raising her and this translates into everything that I do. Because right now with Kairo I'm making the best decision according to me. If I feel like I could have done better in that moment then I  feel guilty... But if it's beyond my control I try not to feel guilty," she confessed.

The entertainment DJ called on moms not to measure their parenting according to society's opinions.

"There is just a lot of messages from society, from friends, from everywhere telling you how you should mother your kids. And then you start using those messages to measure yourself and then that's where you fall short, because then you're just like oh then I'm not a good mom because..."

Watch the full conversation below.

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