WATCH | This mom teaches her children that virginity is patriarchal, and their worth shouldn't be defined based on it

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Mum explains why she's teaching her five daughters there's 'no such thing as virginity' Photo: book_mama/tiktok
Mum explains why she's teaching her five daughters there's 'no such thing as virginity' Photo: book_mama/tiktok

In a video that has gone viral on TikTok, Cayce LaCorte, US mom of five daughters, shares how she believes that virginity is a patriarchal concept, and children should not be defined by it.

"It is a patriarchal concept used to control women and serves no purpose other than making women feel bad about ourselves," she declares.

"Just because some guy randomly sticks his penis in you at some point in your life, it does not change your worth, it's not changing who you are. It doesn't do anything other than it happened," she goes on.

Sex is important, it's a big deal, she clarifies, but it has nothing to do with your first time.

Other parents have expressed concern, saying that she's encouraging to her kids to be promiscuous. 

Her response is an emphatic NO. "I'm raising them to be good people and have solid foundations and like make your own choices and make smart, intelligent choices, not because some book says not to,"  she stresses. 

This video has been watched by over two million people, with over 22 000 comments so far. The comments are divided, with some people supporting the idea while others were very unsure about it.

A great idea

"So how do you discuss 'the right time'? Like did you set an age requirement or anything? I love this and I want more information on how it's working" asked one commenter.

"I have two girls (so far) and this is a great idea. Plus, why is promiscuity generally viewed as a bad thing" said another mom.

The video opened up some old wounds for others, as rape survivor Remi Woo also shared her thoughts.

"I love this. I was raped. This made me cry. By your standard I am not soiled. I am still worth it."

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Sources: Mirror

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