Married but a single parent


So often it's seen. A mother spending all her free time making sure that baby doesn’t fall off the bed while dad plays on the PC. Or maybe daddy is the one constantly entertaining the little one while mom has her nails done.

It's often seen and argued about between parents. One feels the pressure while the other sees no problem in the current set up. Surely if it works then don't try and fix what isn't broken?

A certain thought always comes to mind though. It took two to tango – right? Even if your baby was an 'oopsie', it's still yours. You are still the parents. With the emphasis being on there two of you.

The responsibility and hard work should fall on both parents. Because honestly, the little mites are hard work and sometimes mom would just like to sit and drink a cup of coffee without having to share every once in a while. Or maybe dad would like to relax outside in the sun with a book instead of having to wipe snotty noses and change dirty nappies?

Yes. I've heard the excuses. 'Looking after kids is a woman's job.' Or 'I work all day, it's only right that you look after the kid.' In my opinion, I say nonsense.

Raising and caring for a child is not about instincts or gender. It's all about taking responsibility for your very own flesh and blood.

Blogger Cams relays her story about how she constantly feels like a Single Married Mom (SMM) while her husband just carries on with his life around her.

“I asked him to take Tash to school”,she says. “He can’t. He wants to go to work early. He knew about the vet. Did he not think to offer any help? Of course not, that would have meant he had considered someone else.”

Surely sharing the task of raising a child is something that can be equally shared?

Do you agree with me or am I just living in a fantasy world? Email and let us know your thoughts.

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