'I felt like a loser': Gabrielle Union talks surrogacy and the inner struggles that come with it

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"I was so worried that maybe she's not going to love me as much because I didn't birth her". (Getty Images)
"I was so worried that maybe she's not going to love me as much because I didn't birth her". (Getty Images)

Actor Gabrielle Union has always been open about her fertility journey.

In a recent interview on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah, Union went into detail about her "brutal" experience with surrogacy

Union welcomed her daughter Kaavia with husband Dwyane Wade via surrogacy in 2018 after trying numerous fertility treatment options.

She shared this experience along with many others in her book You Got Anything Stronger?

"It's not, 'Oh, it was great, and I was just glad someone was there to help me bring my angel into the world'. I felt like a loser. I felt like a failure," she told Noah about being unable to carry her own child. 

Also read: The sheer agony of struggling to conceive: Mom offers tips for those suffering through this

'Maybe he's not going to love me fully because I wasn't able to do this'

Union went on to share her fears around her daughter and husband. 

"We both had to work to create a bond because she was created outside of both of us. And I was so worried that maybe she's not going to love me as much because I didn't birth her. Maybe she's not going to respect me as much. Maybe he's not going to love me fully because I wasn't able to do this, and I'll never know. And it's brutal... but no one ever tells that story". 

Union says that it was only after writing about her motherhood journey that she was able to process her feelings about becoming a mom via surrogacy. 

"Once you name it, claim it and let it go," she said.

Catch the full interview here: Gabrielle Union - Opening Up About Her Personal Life Through Essays.

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