Baby naming can be a disaster


We’re five months in and Monique is starting to show. Along with the new baby bump there is perhaps the most exciting part for any parent - we can feel our impending bundle of joy kicking!

It’s a bit of a delay this time around though. With Nicholas, Monique’s ‘pregnant look’ came a lot earlier and even now our number two appears to be playing a game of hide-and-seek.

Now that there is a perhaps a more of a ‘look and feel’ to go with the pregnancy, we have also started to play with idea of baby names. As with Nicholas we are not finding out the sex of the new arrival, which makes choosing a name a little harder.

Picking a name

Nicholas as a name came to us fairly easily. We always liked it and did flirt with other options but as soon as Monique (a friend) proposed it, we loved it. I have been waiting for another epiphany from her this time around but sadly neither of us seems to be coming up with anything of value - especially in the girl department!

When we were dating we did what most couples do and named our kids ahead of time. It’s a dreamy notion often enthused with the love and hope of the time, but when one looks back our cool and hip names that we had lined up may have caused some damage to our future children.

The reality is that if we were honest with ourselves and had we given Nicky one of these stunningly ‘cool’ names, he may have already been kicked out of the Lego club at crèche for being too different!

Our current plan is to revert to the tried and tested option of combing through name books and hoping that something sticks. The problem with this is that there are copious amounts to choose from. After a mind numbing few hours of reading out names and with fatigue setting in you may begin to think that some names actually sound good.

One marathon session a few nights ago left us feeling joyful and once again in control of the process. It was only when we went to reaffirm our choices the next morning that we realized that perhaps my coffee induced excitement and Monique’s pregnant-working-mum addled brain may have left us and our child with some impending problems in life. 

Suffice to say that Lothario Jacob and Jemima Sunshine Hardiman will not be gracing the birth certificate anytime soon.

As such the search continues.

How did you choose the perfect name for your baby? Have any suggestions for Richard and Monique?

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