'My mother would have died during labour': A reader asks Caesarean critics not to judge

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I feel that we, as women, are too critical of one another.
I feel that we, as women, are too critical of one another.

In a recent Parent24 poll, we asked our Facebook community whether they thought birth via Caesarean is 'unnatural'?

For the majority (85%) the answer was no, while the remaining 15% disagreed. 

 

The belief that Caesarean births are 'unnatural' or even (at the truly extreme level) an invalid form of birth is ridiculous, but some people obviously still think this. 

Read more here: Is birth by Caesarean' unnatural'? 

While we at Parent24 feel that there is no 'unnatural' way to bring a baby into the world, this reader perfectly explains why we need to be less critical of how mother's bear their babies.

Her letter follows: 

'Every woman should have the right to make her own birthing choices' 

I feel that we, as women, are too critical of one another. We as humans should realise that everyone is different and unique.

It is unfair to place your expectations on another. We must remember that there are women who can't give natural birth, even if they wanted to.

It is just physically impossible for them. My late mother was one. Both myself and my brother were born via planned C-sections.

I won't go into detail about her medical history, but if it weren't for this type of delivery me and my brother would not have been here, and my mother would have died during labour.

We had a very loving and strong relationship.

I know that the rate of C-sections in SA is very high compared to other countries, but every woman should have the right to make her own birthing choices.

These choices should be informed and individualised and not influenced by the opinion of very critical people.

So, ladies, we are our own worst enemies.

Let us build each other up, be understanding of our individuality and stop pressuring each other through comparison. 

Thank you, 

Anonymous 

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