Being a mom is mostly awesome, but sometimes even exciting milestones come with a moment of sadness. Find out why the things you remember fondly are often accompanied by tears, and see if you can add to our list:
1. When newborn clothes stop fitting: Those tiny outfits you “ooohed” over aren’t designed to be worn for a long time, so when your baby starts to pick up weight, you hide a couple of the tiny cardigans and mini-booties in your cupboard, just to keep the memory alive. If you’re practical, the clothes will become doll’s outfits.
2. When the breastfeeding is over: Many moms fret about how long their babies need to breastfeed, or whether or not baby is getting enough. Other moms find it difficult and painful; but it really is a sad moment when you breastfeed your baby for the last time.
3. First tooth: A first tooth is an exciting moment, but then it feels as if your baby is growing up, and isn’t that gummy kid he once was. Also, it’s sometimes accompanied by your baby feeling discomfort, and mom can’t really do much but look on helplessly.
4. Just a little trim: Baby hair is a very special commodity. It can be as soft as kitten fur, and sometimes it is the last time your child will have curls, or be oddly blonde when her parents have brown hair. Parents sometimes put off that first haircut for years (or until the toddler manages to cut it himself), and it is an emotional time watching those silken locks drop to the ground.
5. Surgery! If your kid is one of the many who go through minor surgical procedures such as having grommets put in or tonsils removed, you’ll know what it feels like to sit with them as they slip into that deep anaesthetic slumber, and lie completely still and vulnerable. It’s not much better when they wake up groggy, either...
6. Crawling: It’s cute to see him take off around the room, finally, after sitting immobile for so long, but it’ll also mean the end of those soft, dimpled knees as the skin thickens. At least those toesies will stay unblemished for a while.
7. No more chubbiness: If you’re a baby, and you haven’t had your cheeks pinched by an aunt, or had mom’s friends comment on your roly-poly thighs, then you have missed out! It’s quite a thing when the baby shape changes, and knees, ankles and elbows appear. You’re not a baby anymore, and mom will miss that.
8. Heirlooms and equipment: An unofficial milestone is the loss of your cell phone, antique vase or DVD player to an act of random play on the part of your child. This is normally followed by disbelief and quiet mourning.
9. Being told “I love you”: Wait. That should make you happy, right? It does, especially when it’s the first time that your child says it spontaneously, but it’s almost certain to be accompanied by tears. Happy-sad moment.
10. And it’s off to school: Did you hide around the corner, or hang out in the playground to keep an eye on your child on the first day of school? Surprisingly, despite fearing that your child will cry on the first day of school, it’s more likely that you’ll cry as she takes that huge step into being independent.
What are your moments of nostalgia brought on by parenting milestones?