Bathtime - not just for cleaning

There's not much time left in the day, just for us.
In between jostling the to-do list, the telephone and the stream of urgent-do-it-now-or-apocalypse-will-strike’s, it's understandable that our kids get the raw deal. Time is precious but, moreover - Frankenfurter was right - it is, indeed, fleeting.

When I flung myself head-on into single parenting, that manic race of time sped up.
Somewhere in the 'just cope' phase, I learnt an excellent trick - bath time.

We do everything together in our house - a house that someone quite close to us has termed "awesome because you can do what you like here". So, yes, we cook together, we snooze together and we bath together.

Maybe it's the water. Maybe it's the mom-on-child bonding. Maybe it's the bubbles. Maybe it's the only time I can legitimately ignore the telephone, the doorbell and the threat of the toppling piles of laundry. Unread emails remain unread and I'm not going to worry about whether or not dinner was indeed a fully wholesome meal.

Bath time in our house is an event. There are always bubbles and there is always talking. It's the time where three year old Cam and I talk about our days. She tells me of wondrous finds in the garden at school, and I get to tell her about my day. She loves to hear stories of never-ending meetings. She even shows genuine compassion for my never-far-from-my-right-hand laptop:

"But mom, did your computer go with? Doesn't your computer get lonely if you don't take it to the meeting?"

I think it's important to tell my daughter about my day - for her to know what I'm up to
whilst she's soaking up knowledge at school. I miss so much, every day, of her latest tricks or her newest talent learnt. It's the best way to find out who bit who at school, and whether or not she and her cousin were princesses or fairies today.

Beyond the squeaky toys and the wet floors, there lies my ultimate peace - of time spent
with her, without boundary or demand - of laughter and fun, without an eye on the time.

I know, one day, she'll demand I get out because we both don't fit anymore.
I'm already planning for it - and saving for a bigger bath. 

How do you make time for quality time during your day?

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