If I had a dollar for every time I swiped through pictures of other people’s kids, I would’ve paid off my car by now. (Yes, I’m a regular Tinder-swiper). The same goes for men and women who put pictures up of their wedding day, but let’s focus on the kids here.
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There have been plenty of happily-ever-after stories for single parents on Tinder and online dating sites. At the risk of sounding completely paranoid and crazy, isn’t posting pictures of your kids on dating sites a little naive at best? Borderline exploitative at worst?
While I understand that there are plenty of single people on dating sites who run for the hills at the mere mention of the words ‘I have kids’ and that it makes sense to be straight up about it from the get-go, do we really need to resort to showcasing images of our children for anyone to see? Dating as a single parent can be tough, and single parents need to accept that some people simply don’t want to date someone with kids, but in that case, you shouldn’t want to date them either.
In a world where the majority of sexual predators and pedophiles are found online, where it has been found over and over again that these sorts of people are taking advantage of online anonymity and dating sites to prey on single mothers and their children, why are people posting pictures of their kids on Tinder? Surely this contradicts the notion that your child is precious and should therefore be protected?
Pedophiles are real, and most of them haven’t been caught and therefore aren’t shown on any sex offenders lists.
We’d all like to believe that nothing could ever happen to us or our children, but the reality is that these things do happen and parents need to be smart about where and who they expose their children to.
Is it not enough to mention in a profile description as a forewarning, that you have kids? And maybe even mentioning it is enough to tip-off any potential child-pursuing predator?
Whilst you might not think that any harm can come from posting photos of your children on Tinder and other online Dating sites, investigations have concluded that pedophiles target kids through single parents online. In fact, police warned that dating-site users should avoid mentioning publicly that they’re single parents at all.
Whilst you might be ‘weeding out’ men or women who prefer no children, you’re essentially using your child as bait.
Another factor to consider is that you’re publicly infringing on your child’s privacy. I wouldn’t be too happy if one of my parents had posted pictures of me on a dating site when I was younger. At the very least I would have appreciated having my face blurred or cropped out.
As much as your children are a huge part of your life, you as the parent are deciding who you choose to date or interact with, not the children. Parents should know best and proceed with caution. If you’re so proud of your kids, protect their privacy and safety and keep their photos off of FREE apps like Tinder.
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