When adult kids still live at home


For some parents, having your children at home is a joy and you may want to hold on to that for as long as possible. Mothers in particular often struggle when the time comes for their kids to leave home.

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Other parents can't wait for their kids to become independent and move out of home. 

Times are tough

Nowadays, more and more adult children choose to stay living at home until much later on in life, perhaps until they are financially able to support themselves. Unless parents are assisting their children financially to help cover expenses such as rent, vehicle/ transport costs and other unavoidable expenses, moving out of home probably won’t happen until their children have finished studying and then hopefully secured a stable job. 

Do your kids know they can come home again?

My parents have always reassured me and my siblings that their home will always be open to us and that if we needed to we could come back and live there any time we like.

If we decide to move back home, the deal is that we clean up after ourselves, treat our parents with respect and don’t abuse their home by doing whatever we like at the house without their consent.

I recently moved back home at 29 (yeh, judge away) after my ex and I, who were living together, split up and while I figure out a better long-term plan for my living situation. 

A second chance

I left home for boarding school when I was very young so I was excited to have the opportunity to live with my parents again for a bit. When I first told them that I needed to move back home for a while, my parents were over the moon, I'm pretty sure my mother was even slightly teary at the thought. 

My parents let me get on with it. Most of the time. My mother doesn't baby me and my father doesn't treat me like a 14 year old who needs to constantly be reminded that I need to make my own bed. I help out around the house where I can, and I try to contribute as much as I can towards groceries. If I'm ever at home (which is rare) I'll make us all a meal and we'll sit and chat about my day and share a bottle of wine.

I'm grateful to be able to have parents to help me out like this every now and then and as much as I cringe when I have to answer the "so who do you live with?"question, I'm very lucky. 

When do you expect your kids to move out of home?

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