My ouma the Facebook stalker


I’m definitely biased when I say this, but, my Ouma is by far one of the coolest grannies around. Why? Well for starters she has a heart of gold, but also, she’s more up to date with what goes on in my generation than I am. “How?” you ask: good ol’ Facebook.

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I have another Ouma (my mom’s side), but we call her ‘Grandmother’ because it’s a far more traditional name and she's, well, traditional.

She wouldn’t know how to turn on a desktop computer if Bill Gates had taken over her mind and body. She often asks me if I’m aware of the current affairs going on in our country and usually refers to events that happened a week prior to that, whilst I would’ve already clicked on News24 links on Facebook about three times that same day.

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She refuses to join Facebook explaining that she doesn’t want strangers knowing about her personal life, yet I have a sneaky suspicion that it has more to do with her fear of using a computer and modern technology in general. Bless her.

Side note for anti-Facebook Granndparents: you can set your privacy settings so that only the people you select can view your information. Try it.

Ouma, with her tech-savvy and fearless attitude towards the 21st century and its new generation, is familiar with words, phrases and acronyms such as “FOMO”, “just saying” (a phrase I’m getting rather tired of hearing) and “YOLO”. Thanks Facebook.

One of Ouma’s favourite Facebook pastimes is to post embarrassing pictures of me, letters I wrote to her as a child and more recently, links to pregnancy music for babies. (The pregnancy music was posted with good intention for a good friend of mine who is currently facing pregnancy as a single mom-to-be. Ouma is more familiar with this friend on Facebook than in real life).

Facebook stalker

She knows more about me and my friends through Facebook than she does from real life encounters and it doesn’t bother me in the slightest, because even though she lives so far away I never need to spend too long telling her all the ins and outs of my life.

There is nothing more exhausting than having to repeatedly recall recent events and happenings in your life to someone in another city. Thanks to Facebook, Ouma usually already knows what’s going on in my life and this gives us more opportunity to skip all the intros and summaries and get straight to the point of enjoying other conversations about life, growing up and why she loves Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory so much.

Read "stalking ouma's" response here.

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