Which bathroom should fathers' use? This dad explains his choice

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"I knock and announce myself before entering so that the female inside knows that I am a dad  coming in with his daughter. Facebook/ The chronicle's of dad.
"I knock and announce myself before entering so that the female inside knows that I am a dad coming in with his daughter. Facebook/ The chronicle's of dad.

A father who calls himself The Chronicle's of Daddy blogs about parenting his daughters, and the struggles that come with parenting.

In a series of posts, he talks about the reasons why fathers struggle to bond with their newborn babies, and about his role as a father in making sure that boys stay away from his daughters.

He also talks about the struggles men have when they want to go to the bathroom while out with their children, and how creative he has to be when his daughters are with him in the bathroom.

In one post, which grabbed our attention, he says, "as a dad being out with daughters, I never thought the bathroom would become as big as an issue as it is."

"Usually we would go to places and they have a family bathroom which is meant for people with children, but what I found was most places don't have them and dads are left to decide between taking their daughters to the men's bathroom or the women's"

When hit by this choice, this dad tells us that he then went to the men's bathroom with his daughters.

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Disgusting 

"Now, I've been to a men's bathroom millions of times but walking in with your daughter makes you look at it completely different. Men's bathrooms are DISGUSTING," he said.

He added that male bathrooms smell like pee, and they have no set up for a person with a child.

He says the changing table in the men's bathroom, if it's there, is right next to the urinal which means that the child would literally be next to where men pee.

Not to mention that there are men going in and out while you are there changing your child, he adds.

"After doing that one time, I decided I'd never take my daughters to the men's bathroom again."

Respectful

This dad tells us that now he is using the female bathroom which is much cleaner and there are also changing rooms set aside for moms with babies.

"Women's bathrooms are so much cleaner and a perfect setup just in case they have children. The changing station usually has a stall instead of just in the open and it's always clean."

He says that he enters the bathroom with his daughters because they are too young to go on their own.

Even though this can be a struggle and draw attention to him and the girls, he explained that he tries to be very respectful to the women in those bathrooms.

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Comfortable

He says he knocks and announce himself, making sure that if someone is in the bathroom, they know that he is a dad coming in with his daughters and making sure that they’re comfortable with that.

He says, "Now once inside our stall I still am aware of the door and whenever I hear it open and someone new is coming in I announce myself again and make sure they know I'm inside with my child so that they aren't surprised."

He says all he wants is to protect his daughters from all things that aren't for them, and the men's bathroom is 100% one of those things.

Dad, where do you take your kids to the bathroom? The men's or the ladies room? 

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Compiled for Parent24 by Athenkosi Mndende 

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