When homework overwhelms Mom

My child is in Grade 2 and everyday he is handed homework that he is expected to complete. Lately, as a single working mom, I've been finding myself overwhelmed with trying to help him finish his homework.

Unfortunately his homework has become my homework too. I know that as soon as I come back from work I have homework waiting for me as he needs help with some of the sections. Being a working mom makes things extra hard for me but we soldier on.

No time to spare

All of my son's homework leaves us with less time to catch up and bond over our own things because as soon as homework is done it's almost meal time and then bed time. Weekends are the only time where I can really bond with him and catch up on us but at the same time he wants to play with his friends.

Amid the extra mural activities and school work, his days and weeks are taken up by things he needs to do. As I sometimes travel I have to find alternatives. I taught him how to use Skype so that we can at least work through his school work together if I'm not at home. I remember a time where he tried to explain a certain animal to me and I didn't know what it was and I had to ask him to go next door and ask the neighbour. Yes, it can go as far as that but I hope that with Skype we can try and manage things.

Is homework necessary?

What worries me is the workload he needs to get through every afternoon. Sometimes I wonder if the homework is unfinished class work or revision on what was taught. Whatever it is, I think it's too much.

I'm happy that he is learning and getting a good education but it's coming at a cost. I worry that he feels pressurized and might be missing out on being a child. I certainly did not have that much homework; I still enjoyed playing with friends. He also cannot miss a day of school because the work piles up and that puts added pressure on him (and me too)!

I have to sign his homework book every day to ensure that I went over the work with him and I cannot bring myself to sign the book if I haven't checked it. Sometimes I wonder whether this homework is for me or for him.

All of this school work means that he misses out on playing and interacting with his friends during the week. But he just cannot afford to waste time, otherwise he'll get behind.

Perhaps there are other options that I am not aware of and maybe other parents can help.

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