A father’s day card for mommy

On Sunday, 17th June we are celebrating Father’s Day. I have a question for all the fathers who are supposed to be getting Father’s Day messages and cards but will not because they are not there: DON’T YOU WANT TO LOVE?

Young boys and girls will come from school, some carrying Father’s Day cards but unfortunately their moms will be the ones getting the cards. It’s not rocket science that they should not be the ones getting these cards. To the deadbeat dads out there, are you happy sitting wherever you are, knowing that you have never given love to your own child that you helped to conceive? Are you really going to spend this Father’s Day without your child or children who are hungry for your love as a father?

You don’t want to give love but those cards were made with love and have innocence all around them. On Monday morning, your son or daughter will have no story to tell because the card was given to mommy, uncle or even grandpa. The card and messages were meant for daddy.

A few years back I wrote an article asking “Where is the black dad?” But I am talking to dads of all races. Is this the new father or man we have to put up with as mothers? One that is not willing to give love to their own flesh and blood? What is your conscience telling you – do you really sleep at night knowing that your flock is not complete?

I also want to include the men who have not told their wives about the kids they have conceived outside of their marriage. Those kids need their father, they need your love and they are not a mistake.

I’m appealing to dads out there to give love to their children. It is not about the R500 you pay every month but the love you need to give you your children. I am talking to the recently divorced dad who is so excited about being a bachelor again and gallivanting around town. Your children need you to spend time with them.

We have super dads like Marlon Abrahams and many others who are setting good examples when it comes to being fathers. They are not perfect but they are making the best of their situations and don’t want to miss out on their children, even when they are no longer together with the mother.

These are REAL men who are choosing to do the right thing. What irks me the most is to hear men saying that “she is not allowing me to see the kids”. Why can’t you fight for your kids? Why are you not going the extra mile for the kids? If your car or house was to be taken away from you, would you just stand around and say “she took my house”? I am sure you would fight, so fight for your kids.

Again I am asking, don’t you want to love?

Disclaimer: The views of columnists published on Parent24 are their own and therefore do not necessarily represent the views of Parent24.

Read more by Masanda Peter

We live in a world where facts and fiction get blurred
In times of uncertainty you need journalism you can trust. For only R75 per month, you have access to a world of in-depth analyses, investigative journalism, top opinions and a range of features. Journalism strengthens democracy. Invest in the future today.
Subscribe to News24