Are children really a blessing?

“Being a parent is such an inconvenience,” a busy mother of one who works full time confessed to me.

“It’s not like I don’t love my son or regret having him,” she continued, “but if I was childless I’d have all the time in the world to do what I want.”

What this mother was trying to tell me is that although she loves a teenage son so much she found that parenting at times got into the way of her career and other goals. But then is that not parenting is about? A labour of love?  Making sacrifices for a human being we helped to bring in this world.

We all know that children are a blessing. Right? Well, as long as they are well-behaved and turn out to be responsible adults.

Most parents will repeat those socially acceptable words, “Children are a blessing,” and yet their actions say otherwise.

I was shocked when a couple, friends of mine, parents of 3 young girls, looked longingly at another childless sitting in the park lost in each other.

“When do you think we’ll be able to sit down like that couple? Just the two of us, with no kids around?”

“Not in a long time.” The husband said, eying their brood.

“Would you like to go to boarding school, honey?” the mother asked the eldest daughter, seven yes old.

“I’ll be ready next year, Mummy,” the child replied excitedly.

To cut the long story short these well to do parents are planning to send their kids to boarding a school. From the couple’s conversation I could tell that they view their kids as an inconvenience to be tucked away in some remote boarding school to be raised by strangers.

In my opinion parents who treat their children as a inconvenience rather than a blessing are guilty of the following?

1.    Delegating the raising of their kids to third parties.

2.    They spend more time watching TV than with their children.

3.    They don’t make time to attend school functions.

4.    They don’t pay child support unless they receive a court order.

5.    Children are viewed as necessary accessories not as small people who need lots of love and attention.

6.    Constantly lament “I wish I had no kids.”

7.    They are notorious for collecting their kids late from school.

8.    When frustrated, stop short of saying to their child “I wish you were not born.”

Whether a parents views their children as a blessing or an inconvenience will be shown by the decisions they make with regard to their children.

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