While the second story is not immediately obvious as bullying, the fact remains: Both children were being harassed by individuals against whom they were unable to resist.
Bullying: The untold stories
These stories have both made national headlines, and yet for each of them, there are hundreds of stories which do untold. Daily, South Africa’s children are being sent into an environment which, instead of being a haven for learning, is a place where they face physical and emotional abuse. Even more shockingly, this abuse comes not only from bigger or older children, but often from those in authority who have the power to prevent these kinds of incidents.
There are kids being sexually abused- victims of statutory rape- by teachers, and kids who face being beaten up or even killed by their peers.
What rights does your child have and what kind of interventions should be in place?
According to the Bill of Rights in the Constitution of South Africa: (Chapter 2.28) [Every child has the right] to be protected from maltreatment, neglect, abuse or degradation.
The governing body of the school must have a Code of Conduct, which sets out the rules of the school, and each pupil is asked to agree to these rules.
A government guideline on codes of conducts says:
“Bullying behaviour is: When a child or group of children misuse their power to hurt other children or exclude them.
The following three essential elements are always present in bullying behaviour, namely:
- deliberate use of aggression,
- unbalanced power relationship between bully and victim and
- the causing of physical pain and/or emotional anxiety."
The school’s governing body is responsible for disciplinary hearings, and, in serious cases, the Department of Education will become involved.
A local university provided these recommendations to schools in dealing with bullying:
- "Staff should treat any report of bullying seriously.
- Staff should first listen to the student or students, and make such enquiries as may be necessary to clarify exactly what has been happening.
- The student(s) should be assured that they have acted correctly in reporting the bullying.
- The staff member should make a written summary of the information and pass it on to the grade teacher, deputy principal or principal as appropriate.
- The staff member should attempt to give advice on how to deal with any repeat incidents that may happen before the intimidation can be dealt with.
- Follow-up should be discussed with the student. It is important that the staff member checks a week or so later with both the student and the person to whom the information was sent.
- In cases of serious intimidation, parents/guardian of both (all) students are to be contacted.
- An anti-bullying programme should be run with each class.”
These two cases highlight how it is the responsibility of schools to provide a safe environment, and how bullying by pupils and teachers must be taken seriously, and actively addressed, before more kids are traumatised by intimidation of any sort.
Do you think your child’s school has effective controls in place to address bullying?