An anonymous reader had this to say: "The fear of conflict is just one thing I have adapted to living with, which has hindered me in so many ways, work conflict, constructive criticism and now mostly in my Marriage. When there’s a problem I retreat into silence when my mind reels with so much things to say but my brain will not allow my voice to operate." Read the rest of her letter here.
Another reader, Natasha also shares her experiences: "He used to drink, physically and verbally abuse us so badly that our neighbours felt sorry for us, our families couldn’t help us anymore and it became too embarrassing to walk on the road on your way to school. I couldn’t even invite friends home. I even wrote a suicide letter because I couldn’t live in that house anymore, this being at the tender age of 9."
Porn and abuse
Parent24's resident single dad, Marlon Abrahams recently wrote a column where he reacted to the news that DSTV was considering adding a porn channel to subscribers who were interested.
A comment by Rebecca on this story was really chilling: "My stepdad enter my life when I was eight. He adored porn, the more violent the better. He came with images from sex-murders. Images of children doing things I didn’t want to know. He was a member of PIE [Paedophile Information Exchange, UK]. When he came, I changed. He made me look at the images. It burnt through my brain. When I closed my eyes, it rotted in my body. When Hustler came, I lost hope. All I knew was despair. All I saw was pain, only now it was with a smile. It made no sense. I got headaches. I lost my sight. I was closing down. All I heard was my stepdad’s laughter. He was laughing — as I shook with terror. "
Were you a child of abuse? How has it affected you? Can you ever recover?