The discipline issue

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Discipline is a tricky issue. Everyone has their own opinion on the matter. Do you hit your child when he's broken your favourite vase or do you sit him down and discuss what exactly he did that was wrong? And when exactly does discipline go from being for the child's own good to abuse?

We've collected some information from our very own articles and bloggers on the matter of discipline.

Hitting then guilt

A mother pours out her heart to one of our experts about how after hitting her usually well behaved son she couldn't contain her guilt.

'He lied and said they were told not to come to school and the other day he stole his grandmother's watch and dismantled it because he says he wanted to see how it works. He used to be such a good boy. I could not stop crying afterwards because I feel like such a bad mother.'

All this mother wants to know is how she can discipline her son without hitting him. Our expert answers her as well as she can. See her reply here.

To smack or not to smack?

Blogger Sanna would love to know how mothers of well-behaved children get it right. She's even willing to pay them! She herself has hit her child when frustrated. Sanna doesn't understand how mothers make their children wait for when their fathers come home.

'Cinderella once got the hiding of her life for saying in front of one of her mom's friends, "Mummy, is this the lady with the ugly furniture in her house?". She was only 4 years old at the time. Her cousins got hidings of the "WAIT TILL YOUR FATHER GETS HOME" kind and they got up to all kinds of outrageous things!'

The Mommy look

Columnist Masanda Peters often wonders if she is the only one who really cares about discipline.

'When it comes to discipline I do not compromise. NO and YES are very clear – it shocks me to find people amazed that my son will sit still at a restaurant, at church and while mom is having her nails done. He behaves and will not be all over the place and I am proud of that.'

Masanda also believes that discipline is key but without corporal punishment. Yes, apparently it is possible!

10 top discipline tips

If you are looking for some way to discipline your child, Sister Lilian gives us some tips on what exactly can be done.

Here is her top tip.

'Example is all-important so consider your own actions and reactions as parents and individuals, realising that there is also a personality-gene component to temperament.'

For the rest of her discipline tips, click the link above.

What are your thoughts, feeling and advice when it comes to discipline?


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