Supermom secrets: How to balance it all during lockdown and beyond

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Planning is essential. (Tempura/Getty Images)
Planning is essential. (Tempura/Getty Images)

Being a woman often requires exceptional multi-tasking skills and no one knows this better than local moms, author Zanele Mbokazi and entrepreneur Grace Stevens. 

Both women are well versed in the art of juggling career and motherhood and shared with Parent24 a few top tips on keeping the wheels in motion for moms running both homes and businesses. 

Here’s a look at their supermom secrets for balancing it all during lockdown and beyond. 

Zanele’s top 5 hacks 

Mother, mentor, and author Mbokazi believes in leading by example, and in the key role self-belief, resilience, dedication, and faith play in success both in the short and long-term. 

Here are her secrets: 

Dream big and start small 

If you don’t know where you are going, how are you going to get there? Life-altering actions always begin with dreams, big dreams, that are based on a big picture of what you want and why you want to achieve what you want. Once you are grounded in your dreams, you need to translate them into goals that are simple, achievable, measurable, and timebound so that you can see your progress and stay motivated. 

Plan everything and write it down

Planning is essential. Make sure your to-do list includes everything from family time, business commitments, self-care rituals and much more. Attention to detail, executing each task, and having a written record of your plan is key to avoiding getting side-tracked. 

Prioritise and focus

To make sure you are working towards achieving your goals you need to take a step back often to check in with yourself. Ask yourself if what you have planned today will bring you closer to your dream tomorrow. Only then can you prioritise which to-dos are most important and focus your energy on a realistic path to achievement.

Recognise your inner voice

We all have that inner voice that can be our biggest critic. It is important not to ignore it, instead recognise it, and accept it, and you remove its negative power. Give your inner critic a nickname and repeatedly tell that negative voice ‘not today’ as a way of claiming power over potentially negative thoughts and reinforcing faith in yourself. 

Find your tribe 

No woman is an island, and you cannot do everything for everyone all the time. Pay attention to those who can help and delegate them responsibilities and tasks in your home and professional life. In life and business, your tribe will support you and make sure you don’t buckle from the stress of trying to do everything.

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Graces top 15 tips

Baking extraordinaire and mother of four, Grace Stevens says that raising a family and managing a business in such an unpredictable can seem like a daunting task, but it all comes down to simplicity. 

Here’s how, according to Stevens, to reframe the disaster into an amazing opportunity to grow: 

Communicate with your family

Ask and gauge how your kids are feeling and what their concerns are so that you can comfort them before they get scared or panic. 

Build new routines

Build new routines to settle your children and spend time with them before you work. By building new routines that prioritise family time you help ease some of the anxiety your family may be experiencing.

Get the kids involved

Involve your kids in the running of the house such as doing laundry, dishes, or cooking. The lockdown presents a great opportunity to teach your children the skills they will need to take care of themselves both emotionally and physically later in life. 

Accept the current status of your business 

Make peace with the fact that during the Covid-19 pandemic your business is unlikely to see any significant upward trajectory. Right now, your business strategy should revolve around keeping your brand at the forefront of people’s minds. 

Get creative 

Ask yourself how your business can add to people’s lives and find creative ways to engage with your audience and reinforce the positive perception of your brand.

Set goals 

Set clear goals for yourself, your work and your family and be realistic when setting your goals. You need to adjust your mindset and accept that you may not be as productive as you have been and that is okay. 

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Prepare your family for you to work

Make sure your children have juice and snacks and their devices (and don’t beat yourself up about them spending more time on their devices) before you go work.

Have a clearly defined space and time for work

Even if it is a small room or a corner of your lounge masking taped off, have a space to go and work and communicate to your children that between x time and x time when you are in your space you are working. Have a clearly defined time to work and communicate it with your family and accept and adjust to the fact that your work time may not be quiet or uninterrupted.

Upskill yourself

Take the opportunity to upskill yourself and your employees via the internet. Learning new skills presents us with many opportunities to enrich ourselves and keep ourselves motivated.

Check in with employees

Make a conscious effort to check in with employees and loved ones you know who are by themselves.

This is the perfect time to stretch your employees into roles in the business that you envisioned for them and presents a vital opportunity to nurture members that are crucial to your business and learn new things yourself through mentoring.

Reassure the kids 

Children are very sensitive to you noticing their presence and crave your attention. The way to reassure them that everything is okay and calm their anxiety is to give them regular time with you and in doing so you give them the acknowledgement they need.

Take it one day at a time

Take care of yourself and keep up your self-care rituals for the sake of your family Remember that panic is not productive and that there is no right and wrong way to handle the lockdown.

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