WATCH | 'I didn't get it, either': Dad shares how he learned to accept his transgender daughter

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Some of us might struggle to accept that our children are different, and even fight it, but as this US dad discovered, letting your child be their authentic self is the best thing for them, and the whole family

Brandon Boulware, a Kansas City attorney, revealed his experience of accepting his transgender daughter's feelings, when he addressed a hearing on a proposal to effectively ban transgender athletes in high school from participating in girls’ sports.

"One thing I often hear when transgender issues are being discussed is, 'I don't get it. I don't understand,'" he said. "And I would expect some of you to have said that and to feel the same way. I didn't get it, either. For years, I didn't get it." 

The father of four described how he forced his daughter to present as a boy. "Why did I do this? To protect my child," he says, adding "and, truth be told, I did it to protect myself as well. I wanted to avoid those inevitable questions as to why my child did not look and act like a boy." 

It must have been hard to admit that his child was miserable, as he describes how she had "No confidence, no friends, no laughter. I can honestly say this - I had a child who did not smile." 

He describes the day his mindset changed, and how immediate the effect of this was on his daughter. "It was immediate, a total transformation... I now have a confident, smiling happy daughter. She plays on a girls' volleyball team. She has friendships. She's a kid."

Watch the full speech here:

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