What the what? We explain all those weird mom group abbreviations

I'm down with the lingo
I'm down with the lingo

"FTM here. I had a CS and my DS is BF my AF just started early should I be concerned? TIA." 

If you are familiar with mom groups discusssions chances are you can decode the sentence above. But if you have never been in an online parenting group before this can sound foreign to you.

As if being a new mom was not life changing enough, it turns out you have to change the way you speak too. 

TBH, I never thought of myself as a person who would engage in online discussions when I was childless. After the birth of my son I became more interested in what other parents had to say about having a child. I joined a bunch of online mom groups, and sentences like the one above were common.

I was clueless but never asked, because I didn't want to embarrass myself.

But we've got your back. This one's for all of you FTMs (that's first time moms in case you haven't figured that out) who want to be in the know. 

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Has the use of mom groups slang made you feel like an outcast? Share your story with us, and we could publish your letter. Anonymous contributions are welcome.

Here is a list of the popular words you will run into in the mom groups:

AF: Aunt Flo -Mens-troo-ation. Speaks for itself, ladies

AP: Attachment Parenting. This is when parents stay close to their kids by wearing them (see BW below) and co-sleeping, among other things

BLW: Baby Led Weaning. Popular among parents to don't mind mess and want to encourage healthy eating habits from day one

BB: Before Baby - Just like BC stands for Before Christ. Smart!

BM: Breast Milk - all babies natural food, but surprisingly controversial nonetheless

BF: Breastfeeding - how babies are generally fed 

BFN: Big Fat Negative - WRT a pregnancy test: better luck next time

BFP: Big Fat Positive - Congrats! You did it, prepare for the MS

BIL: Brother in Law - relative who will have opinions

BW: Blood Work - this you have an awful lot of when you are pregnant

BW: Baby wearing - carrying your baby and toddler in a specially designed baby carrier

BTDT: Been there done that, obviously

CIO: Cry It Out - a (somewhat unpopular) sleep training method 

CD: Cloth Diaper - don't worry they usually tell you before you ask

CS: C-Section - a surgical alternative to a natural birth

DD: Due Date - this is more like an eviction notice handed over by your OBGYN

DC: Daycare - one way of staying sane, or being able to continue your career 

DD/DS/DH/DE: Dear Daughter/Son/Husband/Ex

DFTN: Down for the Night - they're asleep, yay! 

DWT: Day Wake Time - usually obnoxiously early in the morning 

EDD: Usually not accurate, but it means Expected Due Date

ERF: Extended Rear Facing (referring to a car seat)

EBF: Exclusive Breast Feeding - no formula for this babe 

EBM: Expressed Breast Milk - one way to ensure EBF 

EP: Exclusive Pumping - when direct breastfeeding didn't work out but baby still needs BM 

Also read: Say what? Emojis and text talk decoded for parents

EFF: Exclusive Formula Feeding - like above but with formula 

FF: Formula Feeding - bottles all the way for this baby 

FFO: Front Facing Out - Baby on your front facing the world

FTM: First Time Mom - aka hot mess 

FTD: First Time Dad - aka still in shock 

FIL: Father in Law - the man who helped your MIL to have your SO

GD: Gestational Diabetes - nasty business, be sure to ask your OBGYN to test for it 

HPT: Home Pregnancy Test - that little stick we pee on and then stare at for several minutes 

LC: Lactation Consultant - a lifesaver if you are planning to breastfeed

LO: Little One - this is your baby

L&D: If you are pregnant you are probably dreading this one: it's Labor & Delivery

MIL: Mother In Law - this is the woman who gave birth to your SO 

MC: Miscarriage - not fun, so be sure to get support 

MS: Morning Sickness - also horrible 

MoM: Mom of Multiples - brave mama right here 

MOTN: Middle of the Night - we all know what this means 

NAK: Nursing At Keyboard - this person is nursing while they type. Multitasking pro!

NB: A tiny squished up little human that doesn't come with an instruction manual, aka a newborn.

NIP: Nursing in Public - a movement we should all get behind 

OPK: Ovulation Predictor Kit - when you're TTC this is so handy 

PPD: Post-partum Depression - a lonely sad place to be, don't be ashamed to ask for support 

Pead: Peaditrician - the person you'll pay a lot of money to, to tell you if your kid is normal or not 

PUPD: Pick Up Put Down - like exercise, but even less fun 

PP: Postpartum - the few months after the baby is born 

PT: Potty Trained/Training - a time of poop and pee for everyone 

SAHM: Stay At Home Mom - when mom gives up a career to raise the kids 

SAHD: Stay At Home Dad - when dad gives up a career to raise the kids 

SIL: Sister in Law - another relative with an opinion 

STTN: Sleep Through The Night - the ultimate goal 

SO: Significant Other - your partner in baby-raising crime 

TTC: Trying To Conceive - this could be fun, but for some it's a longer journey. Be kind

TW: Traditional Weaning - offering the LO mashed foods on a spoon 

US: No, it's not the United States. It's the Ultrasound

VBAC: Its sound like a music system, but it refers to a Vaginal Birth After Cesarean

WAHM: Work At Home Mom - a powerhouse who tries to work from home and raise the kids at the same time

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