The inevitable question of 'do you want a boy or a girl' has come up and at first I wanted a girl. Maybe it's that automatic built-in syndrome where most women want girls and most men want boys.
I've had a while to think about it now though and I've changed my tune. There are 3 very real reasons that I don't want a girl. They may seem silly or paranoid to some, but to me, they're a defense mechanism. A way of protecting the little girl I'd rather not have.
And don't get me wrong, I love girls. I love my tiny niece with all my heart. I love painting her nails and taking her shoe shopping, while constantly encouraging her to play video games and kick a ball around...
These are my reasons for not wanting a girl.
Yes, this may seem like a regular bodily function and many women don't give it a second thought, but it sucks. Having "shark week" once a month is just plain awful. The pain, the discomfort, the extra planning and thought that goes into what you're going wear. It's annoying and can be really horrible for some women. Plus having to deal with the horror that comes with getting your periods for the first time is a whole terrible life experience all on its own. Or am I alone on that one?
I'm not talking about falling pregnant when she's happy and ready to become a mother. I'm talking about that accident that happens when you go "too far" with your boyfriend and suddenly your whole life has changed. Or even worse, you're raped and suddenly have to make one of the hardest decisions of your life - do you keep it or abort? I know that teenage pregnancy is not the end of the world. I have friends who were teen mothers and I can't imagine that they'd change it for anything. But what if it doesn't turn out that way? What if MY daughter is one of the girls who falls pregnant and it ruins her life?
I realise that this does not only apply to girls. Boys get raped too. According to these stats girls are still the most at risk. And as much I'm all for strong females who know how to protect themselves, there's not much that a little girl can do against a grown man. And yes, girls who have been raped are able to move on with their lives and even help others who have been through the same thing. And of course I would do everything in my power to prevent rape happening, but unfortunately, parents aren't superheroes.
These are my reasons. I'm not a paranoid person and I don't stress and worry about these things every moment of every day but they are real concerns. Things I know I'd have to look out for and explain and protect my little girl from. I'm not saying that I would tear my clothes and cover myself in ashes if I were to have a baby girl. The opposite, I'd be happy and look forward to all the good that growing girls bring to a household. But in the back of my mind, I'd be aware of the fact that the world can be a cruel place for a little girl.
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Do you have your own reasons for not wanting a boy or a girl? Share them with me.