To my unconceived child

You may not know me, and I may not know you yet, but one day when the time is right, we shall meet and it will be the beginning of a beautiful relationship. You see, my husband - who’s also your dad - and I got married four months ago so we’re what people regard as newlyweds. We’re enjoying the bliss of married life and getting to know each other. We may be in our 20s, newly wed and carefree but we have hopes and aspirations of one day starting a family.

While some couples think of travelling and accomplishing wealth, our minds are on building a life together and it’s one where you are part of it. Even though we’re not parents yet, we’re just like every other parent-to-be out there. We have so much love ready for that amazing little person, you, to enter our life, and change it forever. 

We do speak about our dreams, our fears and our goals for the future. And we speak about you. You may not know this but you’re on our minds all the time. At times I think about you more than your dad. But know that he does love you and always will; and that is something no person will ever be able to take away from you.

I think about you growing in me and that even if hell should freeze over, I’d protect you with my life forever as that’s what mothers do. I think about your little hands in mine, resting close to me with not a care in the world. I think about you sleeping in your cradle dreaming of conquering the world not knowing that I’m at your bedside every two minutes just to ensure that you’re okay.

I look at my features and your dad’s and I wonder who you are going to look like. Will you have my dainty hands or my button nose, or will you have your dad’s dimples and his laughing eyes? Will you light up when you laugh like I do, or will you pout your lip when you’re sad just like your dad does?

We’re not sure whether you’re going to be a girl or a boy, but that doesn’t matter as you’re going to be ours to love. The world is your oyster and as you grow up, we’d teach you can be anything you want. I wonder if you’ll be an avid chef and writer like me or rugby player like your dad or how about having a passion for acting or caring for animals or perhaps going deep into the oceans to explore marine life. All in all, I’d be okay with whatever you choose as you are my child and I’d love and support you no matter what.

I’d want you to know, I’ll always be there for you; from your first breath when you enter the world, to your first tooth, first walk, first word, first academic accomplishment, I’d be there all the way to rejoice with you; but I’d also wipe your tears away at your first fall, your first fail and your first love lost.

So to my unconceived child, when you’re ready, we’re waiting for you.

Love you now and forever

Your mom xxx

What would you like to say to your future child?
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