'The end of the road?' How to cope with disappointing matric results

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"Please take the time to listen to your children’s disappointment." Photo: Getty Images
"Please take the time to listen to your children’s disappointment." Photo: Getty Images

There may be a lot riding on your matric results, which are to be released this week, but it is important to understand that some students may not receive their desired outcomes.

This may largely be due to the pandemic's unforeseen challenges that the class of 2021 went through, which included other uncontrollable external factors such as the KZN looting and load-shedding that disturbed their focus while studying for their matric examinations.

With this in mind, News24 spoke to Joseph Gerassi, Executive Head of Redhill School, about how learners and parents can deal with disappointing matric results. 

Read: 'The most important thing is not to panic': How to prepare and cope with disappointing matric results

'Not the end of the road'

"To any students who did not receive their desired results and are feeling disappointed, please know that this is not the end of the road. Life is a journey that is often filled with speedbumps, roadblocks, and unexpected detours," said Gerassi.

"As such, you may need to take the time to reassess and perhaps find a different route to your desired destination," he added.

He said that this may involve taking a different course and transferring to your first choice at a later stage.

'Explore other options'

"This may involve exploring other options outside of the more traditional careers – ones you may never have considered before," added Gerassi.

He said that reassessing and finding a different route may mean taking another course and transferring to your first choice at a later stage.

For others, it may mean exploring other options outside of the more traditional careers – ones you may never have considered, he said.

Gerassi said that exploring other options could end up broadening your horizons and discovering a course or career that you love.

Also read: Here's where to find the 2021 matric exam results

'Get your head up and keep moving'

"The key here is not to put your head down but instead to get your head up and keep moving forward," he emphasised.

"In the same way that you would not allow a detour to stop you from reaching a physical destination, so too should you not let these results stop you from taking action. You've shown grit and determination to get this far – keep going," he explained.

'Listen to your child'

Gerassi's message to parents of children who have not achieved their desired results or outcomes is to "please take the time to listen to your children's disappointment."

"At this point, it is vital that they have the time and opportunity to share their feelings of disappointment and anxiety and have space to speak without having a parent step in to try and 'fix' the situation," he said.

'Don't show your own disappointment'

He said that as a parent, you must let your child speak and try to listen without showing any of your own disappointment.

"Then be ready to step in and help them strategise when they are ready to start looking ahead to potential next steps," he added.

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