'She has zero respect for his late wife': Baby name drama turns happy relationship upside down

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"She picked the name that was the 'most important one' to her boyfriend's late wife." Photo: Unsplash/@freestocks
"She picked the name that was the 'most important one' to her boyfriend's late wife." Photo: Unsplash/@freestocks

It is normal for soon-to-be parents to disagree on baby names in the quest to find the right one. Usually, parents would settle on a name that they both like, but this doesn't always happen. 

As in the case of one mom-to-be who refuses to find common ground with her boyfriend

The mom-to-be's daughter took to Reddit for advice on the situation, explaining that her now pregnant mom got into a serious relationship two years ago with a man who's first wife had died. 

Before she died, his late wife compiled a list of six baby names that she might have chosen for the children she would never have and asked her husband not to use those names as part of her dying wish. 

While aware of the existence of the list, the man's current pregnant girlfriend didn't know the actual names until she became pregnant.

Unknowingly, she picked the name that was the 'most important one' to her boyfriend's late wife, and her boyfriend was not happy.

The pregnant woman's daughter wrote that she wants to tell her mom that she is wrong for insisting on using the name, but is unsure because her brothers think it's okay.

Extended family members also agreed that it would be a little awkward, but if it's a name the mom-to-be likes it should be fine. 

Read: This woman discovered that her biological dad was dating her sister, who had no idea

'This line of thinking is toxic' 

Already this post has over 5000 views and has many people commenting on it.

One person wrote that repurposing the name would keep the late wife's memory alive, but is that what the boyfriend wants?

Another person stated that the mom is "lobbing a grenade into it by showing her boyfriend and his children that she has zero respect for their beloved late wife and mother."

Another user said that this post really bothers her as it seems to say that "it's fine to disrespect someone's clear and reasonable boundary if you don't think there is a 'good enough' reason for it. This line of thinking is toxic."  

Sources: Reddit.


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