- Kayden Coleman, 33, from New York, first fell pregnant in 2013 during transition.
- He stopped taking hormone blockers while waiting for his mastectomy.
- After top surgery, he decided against genital construction surgery and has kept his female reproductive organs because of the expense
Kayden Coleman is a 33-year-old from New York. He began transitioning from 2009 and was shocked to find out that he was five months pregnant with his first child, who is now six, after he was forced to stop taking testosterone for his mastectomy in March 2013.
Kayden gave birth to a daughter, Azaelia in 2014.
But the father of one, who has not had genital construction surgery and has kept his female reproductive organs, was again stunned to find out in January that he was seven weeks pregnant with his current boyfriend, Dominique, 29.
Now, the expectant parents say they can't wait to meet baby number two.
Despite previously facing backlash from online trolls who described Kayden as a "monster" and called for his child to be taken into care, The LGBT care worker said: "I do enjoy parts of being pregnant, like the fact that it makes my beard thicker.
"But I don't get the same pregnancy privileges because it is not evident that I'm carrying a child. People assume it's a beer belly, so people don't give up their seat for me or hold doors open.
"Even growing up as a girl, I hated my chest. I never wanted to wear a bra, and I knew that even if I didn't transition, I would have had a reduction.
"But I never had bottom surgery because it's expensive, there are often a lot of complications with it, and it can numb things sexually.
"I've never feared backlash because at the end of the day, until these people are paying my bills or putting food on my table, their opinions are just that."
He continued: "When Azaelia was born, there were a lot of people who said they felt sorry for her and that she would grow up and be confused.
"They said that she should be taken away and called me a monster.
"But it's essential for people to understand that we have full autonomy over our bodies, and we should do with it as we please.
"I can't wait to meet my second baby, and Azaelia is so excited about having a little brother or sister."
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At the age of 20, Kayden realised he wanted to be a man and three years later started medically transitioning by taking testosterone.
Six weeks before his top surgery in March 2013, Kayden had to stop taking his transition hormones and fell pregnant with Azaelia with his then boyfriend Elija - giving birth to the healthy baby girl in January 2014.
But sharing his journey as a pregnant trans-man online, the dad faced backlash with many trolls criticising him for "confusing" his daughter.
Kayden said: "I knew I wanted to transition in 2007, but at that time there weren't many resources and a female-to-male transition wasn't very common.
"If you went on Google and searched for testosterone, you would get some sketchy website based in India, and it was hard to find binders for your chest.
"I identified as a lesbian at the time, and my girlfriend was not okay with me transitioning and tried to talk me out of it, so it wasn't until 2009 that I started the process.
"I had to stop taking testosterone six weeks before the surgery, and a month after I had it, I conceived my first child."
'I thought I was gaining weight, but I was growing a baby.'
Despite the online trolls, Kayden and Dominique are looking forward to meeting their baby and are planning their baby shower before the August due date.
They claim they have never had problems or funny looks from onlookers and Kayden suspects that they don't even realise his big tummy is a baby bump.
But the dad has had to face being misgendered, being told that he doesn't belong in medical settings for pregnant women and receiving abortion offers from healthcare workers when he was as far along as 28 weeks.
He said: "We don't have any issues when we're out with Azaelia.
People see two men and a baby because it's not outwardly apparent that I carried her in my womb.
"I think a lot of people believe that we had sex with a woman or adopted her and when she says she has two dads, nobody questions her because we have taught her to be proud of who she is and where she came from.
"But there's been a lot of objection to my pregnancies in terms of the medical side of things.
"I've been told I don't belong in certain places because I'm not a woman and I've been offered an abortion more times than any woman would have been provided by medical staff.
"When I had Azaelia, I had to switch my health insurance back from male [to] female and had to deal with them, calling me Mrs Coleman when I was in the waiting room.
"I think it's important that people understand that there are a plethora of trans-identities. We are not all the same.
"Just because I went from female to male, doesn't mean I have a desire to date women or be hyper-masculine or even be cisgender.
"I don't have to hate my body or parts of it to be considered a real man."
He asked: "I'm lucky enough to have a working uterus and reproductive system that allows me to carry a child and create life. So why should I have to reject that part of me just because I'm trans?"
Source: Magazine Features
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