Tips towards a motivated child

When we bring an infant into this world we want the best for that young one. We work our butt off to make sure that we give that child the best we can afford. We have dreams for our children— beautiful dreams.
‘I want my child to turn into a good person,’ one father recently confided in me.

In an effort to influence their child to become the adult they want him to become, parents have to wear so many hats: the friend, the disciplinarian, the cook, the nurse, the law-enforcer…the motivational speaker.

I’ll concentrate on the role of a parent as the motivational speaker. I know a mother who always says of her son “I know Luke will always pick himself up, and dust himself when the going gets tough.” This mum says these words in her son’s earshot, thus reminding him that he is a strong person in an effort to motivate him.

Most parents do not want their children to repeat the same mistakes as they did. In an effort to save their child the pain of learning life’s difficult lessons the hard way, some parents come up with gems of wisdom, not necessarily original, that may have a huge impact in their children’s life. Parents should never take for granted the power that positive words of wisdom can have on a young mind.
‘My mother used to say “family comes first, no matter what!”’ a friend recently told me when I noticed his devotion to his siblings.

Here are some of my favourite sayings or quotes that I intend to pass on to the young ones in my life:

Treat everyone with respect

My parents taught me this lesson by the way the respectful way they treated their workers. I learnt a valuable lesson —to treat people of all backgrounds with dignity.

Do not force yourself on people

Great advice from my mother which I found useful at school when facing peer pressure.

You can be anything you want to be if you put your mind to it.

As a young person these words were a source of encouragement for me when I faced so many doubts about making choices. Despite them being familiar, they are still relevant.

Study as much as you can when you are young

I think every parent to encourage their children to study hard in their youth before they have too many responsibilities. It’s easier that way.

Virginity is a virtue

With Soapies and your child’s peers saying otherwise it makes good sense to educate a young one that preserving ones virginity until marriage is the best policy. Although this advice may seem dated and old-fashioned it can save a young person from many heartaches. 

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