Are moms harder on their daughters?

Are moms harder on their daughters than their sons? Seems the answer is a resounding yes according to a study by Netmums, “21% of mothers admitted they are harder on their daughters, while just 11.5% said they are strict with their sons.”

More mothers have admitted to letting their sons get away with more than their daughters. I’m not too sure how much I agree with this. I don’t think my mother was harder on me than my brother but she did treat us differently. It wasn’t really anything big.

My mother was fair when it came down to housework. We had to do the dishes on alternate nights, and we each had to keep our own rooms tidy.

But it was the smaller things that were different. We had the same curfew but if he broke it, the scolding he got was somewhat half-hearted and often forgotten by the next morning. The rules were stricter for me.  Makes me feel slightly better seeing as “a total of 22% of respondents confessed they turn a blind eye to behaviour from boys that they chastise their girls for.”

He’s also more spoiled in that way that a mother will spoil her son like if he wants a particular dish she’d go out of her way to make it for him. And even though we’re both adults (25 and 22 respectively) she still tends to baby him.

My friend Meagan also feels that mothers are harder on their daughters. “Daughters are a direct reflection of themselves,” she says. Mothers often see their daughters as a chance to redeem themselves from the mistakes they made, hoping they won’t repeat them. 

The other side of the coin is that they see their daughters achievements as their own, “My mother cried at my graduation and said to me that it felt as if she was graduating, says Meagan.

But then the same can be said about the father-daughter relationship I suppose, my dad is definitely much harder on my brother than me. I suppose there is some truth to being a “Daddy’s girl” and a “Mommy’s boy”.

Despite all of this though 51% of those quizzed thought it was wrong to treat a child differently because of their gender. I don’t think it means daughters are loved less than their brothers, just that parents have different expectations of them.

Do you treat your daughters different to your sons?


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