I lied, Joost confesses

2009-11-01 08:04

Johannesburg - Former Springbok Joost van der Westhuizen has confessed to Rapport that it was him in the controversial sex video that was shot about three years ago. The confession comes after months of denials.

"It is me in the sex video and I'm very, very sorry that I lied. Please forgive me."

In the video Van der Westhuizen performs, among other things, oral sex, and sniffs the drug Cat.

When the video first became public knowledge a furore erupted over the alleged authenticity of the tape, with Van der Westhuizen saying it was not him in the video and claiming he was the victim of a smear campaign.

In his book Joost: The Man in the Mirror, Van Der Westhuizen tells of the hell he went through after the story broke. "The fact that I was living a lie consumed me."

Van der Westhuizen told Rapport he also lied to his wife Amor and only confessed to her at the beginning of August. "She is the most wonderful person and from there we started working on our relationship, left right and centre.

"I haven't forgiven myself yet. How can I expect her to forgive me?"

He admitted he could still lose his family. "Things are not 100% with Amor yet." However Van der Westhuizen rubbished claims of a pending divorce.

Van der Westhuizen also said he and Amor and their children went to visit evangelist Angus Buchan in June to ask for advice. "Uncle Angus made me realise that I must stand up and be a pillar for my family."

  • Biltongvreter - 2009-11-01 21:07

    This matter can only be resolved between Joost and his Maker. The rest of us can only pray, we dare not condemn the man - only the sin.

  • news reader - 2009-11-01 21:16

    We knew it was you all along Joost. Why did it take you so long to admit the truth? What is it with South African celebs & politicians? Why are so many of them under the impression that they can do whatever they want & get away with it? Not much of an example...

  • Windlass - 2009-11-01 22:53

    Hmmm ... How well do you know your partner. And I quote "I married Joost because he is an honest man, a man with integrity. "I know it's not Joost (in the video) and do not have a moment's doubt.

  • Aquarius - 2009-11-01 22:58

    An evangelist is the LAST person you should be visiting. The church is the reason the world is so screwed up. Keep away from them and just live your life.

  • Joe - 2009-11-01 23:51

    This is the kind of stuff heroes are made off: a powerful man lives it large and gets busted, lies, repents, confesses and apologizes. Wow. I forgive you Joost. I'll guarantee you many of the stone-throwers have skeletons in their own cupboards back in their glass houses, rest assured.
    Now if only the ANC had this much courage to admit the failure of the New! Improved! South Africa is 100% their fault and apologized for it, wouldn't South Africa be so much better off? After all, one needs to admit ones' mistakes in order for one to address them, right?

  • Perrin - 2009-11-02 05:17

    I bet Darren Scott feels like an idiot now, a few reports deserve apologies. The only thing Joost is sorry about is being caught, Amor must leave his sorry has-been ass.

  • Eugene - 2009-11-02 06:09

    You people are like a bunch of ou tannies gathering around on a a Sunday afternoon sipping tea and "skinnering" over other peoples afairs. Leave Joost and Amor alone, lets rather kick this Monday off with some good old politics. Yeah!!!!

  • Five - 2009-11-02 06:31

    Amor dump him .... it was not a mere fling ... it was dirty and rotten.

  • pierre - 2009-11-02 06:35

    Once a Cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER.I really hope that Amor divorces you,and take you to the cleaners. You deserve no forgiveness or special treatments.

  • Tex - 2009-11-02 06:37

    Who really cares, Jooste was a good Springbok and Blue-bulls Scrum-half. I really don’t care about his personal life. He’s not a role model; he’s a guy from the wrong side of the track, who plays good rugby. You should be a role model to your kids and live a good life, don’t expect Jooste or people like that to be role models, why would they be. I’d never read a book by Jooste, he’s simply not that interesting.

  • cindy - 2009-11-02 06:53

    *sigh* this is old news... all the sane people without the rose-tinted glasses knew it right from the time the story broke. WHY oh WHY is this pathetic fool getting all this undeserved publicity?!? that's EXACTLY what he's looking for, his book will sell SO much better now!! besides, if he can "confess" that he did it ONCE (very conveniently that girl had a video camera) then why not just confess it all? but no, that would paint a much more pathetic picture, won't it...? poor kids, i do feel sorry for them..

  • Bruce - 2009-11-02 07:29

    It's so good to read about the debauchery of celebrities at least then we all realise that we are not so bad after all

  • han - 2009-11-02 07:41

    HAHAH, Joost, so you DO have holes in your socks and underpants!

  • hard - 2009-11-02 07:46

    I don't want to judge the guy as we are not to judge, what however is interesting is that his book is being released in line with his confession, how sincere is this confession

  • Gavin Forman - 2009-11-02 08:01

    Well, just another perfect role model to our society. Joost, Ricky January and the list grows. yes we all make mistakes in life, and yes we all have our private lives, yes we all have skeletons in our closets. But in the end if you are a public figure that the youth respect as a role model and want to be like one day. Well this is a perfect example to set. But you lie, cheat and then profess your sins or what ever he wants to call it, DISGUSTING. Suddenly he is concerned for his families "safety" from the public comments etc. Respect, means just that, respect,which should be earned in life, and yes he had plenty of that, but it can be taken away in the blink of an eye. How long is it since the video came out, 3 or 4 months, and now he wants everyone to forgive him so that he can protect his family. Come on Joost, you know better than that, you USED to be a hero and in the limelight for how many years? Then the best joke of all, dont do drugs and drink is his latest message. I agree with the comment about making money out of it, just like the woman who was in the video, is it not the same thing. And well done to M-Net for axing him, he deserves no better. Thanks Joost for setting an example to the youth, most of who don't give a damn about themselves or society, People in the limelight like you are the perfect role model.

  • thysdj - 2009-11-02 08:06

    He's not sorry for what he has done, he's sorry for getting caught! He only started living a lie and crying AFTER the story became public. Before that all was fine in the V d Westhuizen household. Shame Joosie, kierankies braai boet.

  • Support - 2009-11-02 08:19

    Joost personifies the hero syndrome. When he visits S.... for example he flirts with all the good looking women even though their partners are in close proximity.This personality trait of Joost has been always there and therefore people being around him at these events knew it was him in the video.Joost you have to accept the way you conduct yourself at events has been a let down for us all along. Work on that aspect of your personality as well. We are all human. Unfortunately forgiving yourself happens only when you admit all your transgressions not only one. We know Marelize was not the only one. The burden wil drag you down.Come clean.

  • Riku - 2009-11-02 08:41

    Ag ou Joost is so special, lets wait for Novemeber to come clean. Good start off for the book. have interviews with every radio station all in one morning. Make millions off your your wife, whjat has she gone for to support you.
    Ag nee wat dit maak my naar!! Sies.

  • Suzette - 2009-11-02 08:44

    Shame on you Joost! How can you ever be an idol to youngsters and adults again! Confessing is one thing, but now - get on with your life and move out of the public eye - we do not need lying, decieving role models that now want to use sympathy to justify the wrongs.

  • SK - 2009-11-02 08:47

    To err is human, to forgive devine. But writing a book to say sorry? That's just good old capitalism

  • greg - 2009-11-02 08:47

    Well done Joost. The timing was perfect, new book, Currie Cup final...lots of publicity - perfect time to 'confess'. I wonder how much of all this has been calculated to maximise his exposure. Like they say in Hollywood "There is no such thing as bad publicity".

  • Blixum - 2009-11-02 12:39

    Mmmm. Just wondering if he was/is still lying about Charmaine Gail. The people of Silver Lakes seem to know what the truth is...