5 tips for surviving the first vacation with your in-laws


Learn their traditions

Families have different ways of doing things especially during  holiday trips. So make sure your partner fills you in on this prior to leaving, It’ll save you a lot of drama. Follow with a thorough research of your destination and activities to help you pack accordingly. Another thing not to forget is their travel style. If you’re flying will you be sitting next to your partner or another family member? Knowing this in time will help you in  generating appropriate conversations for the road.

Discuss money issues

Your in-laws might have invited you over and covering your transport costs but don’t assume activity costs are on them as well. It’s you and your partner’s responsibility to ensure that this is cleared before leaving. One effective way that can help you is that everyone contributes the same amount towards entertainment.  This is eliminate the ‘who’s paying the bill’ debate.

Be clearly on duties

If you’re not staying in a hotel, chances are you’ll be sharing chores to make your stay enjoyable. So, before you jump at the opportunity to help out with the kids be clear on what that means. For you it could mean taking them to the beach while your inlaws expect you to wash, feed and keep an eye on them the whole time.  

Get involved in booking the rooms

Only you know what it takes to make your holiday a memorable one so don’t leave sleeping arrangements to them. They might feel it’s best to divide the men, women and kids in different rooms while you want to be in the same room with your partner. As uncomfortable as this discussion may be, it’s the only way you’ll get what you want.


If it’s your first time meeting the other members in your partners family make an effort to know a  little more about each one of them. Avoid clinging on to your man during your entire stay as you could be perceived as antisocial. Remember any vacation has the potential of being enjoyable and this one is in no way different. 

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