5 ways you’re pushing your man away

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You alienate him from his friends

Whether you’re subtle about it, or confrontational, you’ve become too demanding of his time that he barely has any for his friends. In healthy relationships, you should both have time to connect with friends and do things that make you, you. You don’t praise his achievements Give praise when it’s due. If he is doing well at work, be happy for him, before you tell him how much he’ll be spending at work. Pick the right time to talk about issues. And don’t sulk, it takes away his moment to shine. Focus on the positives, like a salary increase. You demand all of his time How would you deal if your man expected you to be with him all the time every time? Expecting him to alienate his family and dedicate his all of his time to you is unfair. Don’t be mad if he ditches your Sunday movie plans so he can drive his mom to church, or cancel on plans so he can check on a sibling who’s going through a difficult time. Don’t be threatened by his family; and getting along with them will actually make life easier for you both. You’re too jealous of his female friends Trust is important in a relationship. It settles all the insecurity issues. Accept that the man had a life before he met you. He may have long time female friends that he chats to every now and then. It doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants them or the female friend wants him. If there were anything going on between the two of them, why would they invite each other to these events knowing full well that you’re also there? This behavior can destroy trust, and you’ll both be resentful for it. You place all your happiness on him This is a huge responsibility and you need to nurture your own happiness. No one can make you happy if you don’t already love and believe in yourself. Don’t expect him to anticipate your emotional needs. If you feel sad, stressed or worried about something, it’s best to share what you’re going through instead of secretly expecting him to know. Try not to be too dependent on him for emotional solutions. Think about the issue at hand, come up with your own plan, and ask for support sometimes. Sometimes you will need a shoulder to cry on and of course he must comfort and support you.
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