9 signs your man’s about to leave you

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He hasn’t said it yet, but it doesn’t mean he’s not planning on dumping you.

You’re talking less That banter and laughs between you to have diminshed, and he’ll only engage in any kind of conversation with you only when it’s absolutely necessary. And this didn’t just happen overnight, you’ve slowly been drifting apart. Some men will have conversations that poke at the issue of being apart. Questions like, ‘how would you feel if I got a job in another province?’ are meant to prepare you for the blow that’s coming your way. He wants to rock the boat He wants change and but is not doing anyting about it. By starting gym, studying and applying for jobs that are far from where you are, he’s getting the ball rolling on his future plans and is not intersted in asking you about anything because the plans don’t include you. He is never home You never know where he is and he offers no explanation. He comes home late at night after you’ve gone to bed; leaves early in the morning and spends the entire weekend at a friend, his brothers or parents’ house. This means he couldn’t careless about your feelings and want you see that he doesn’t. The fights escalate Obviously, you’ll want to know where he goes and why he is neglecting you, and he’ll use that as a perfect platform to start a fight. And the fights are becoming really cruel – throwing threats and profanity at you and accusing you of cheating, so that he could give you the reason to leave him first. He now thinks romance is stupid Remember how he was at the beginning? Watching movies with you, and taking you out? Now pet names and ‘I love you’ are stupid to him. He says it’s about other people in love, so that you know he is doing none of that with you anymore. He is no longer connected emotionally and would rather speak to someone else than you. He’s allergic to your touch The kisses are stiff and normally initiated by you. And he avoids sex or being touched. Always making excuses about why you shouldn’t - ‘I’m tired,’ ‘got to get up early tomorrow,’ or ‘I’ll be there now, I just need to finish this report.’ He avoids any commitments Why would he commit to anything when he knows it’s just a matter of time before he blindsides you with the break up. He can’t commit to an event, a holiday, or purchasing any more assets together. He is slowly moving out Whether you’re renting together, separately, or you own a house of your own, his clothes and other things start disappearing one-by-one. And he is so eager to bring you anything that you’ve left at his house. His kind acts may be just a coy to make the break swift when it happens. His friends are now way more important He is not about to drop anything he is doing with his friends to be with you. No! You also have not been around his friends much, and when you do see them, they treat you like ‘are you still here?’ Girl, can’t you take a hint?
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