We turn to experts to find out what really increases our libido and chances to orgasm.Experts Dr Elmari Mulder Craig and Dr Elna Rudolph help us sift fact from fiction regarding libido and orgasms. Drink water for better orgasms If you’re dehydrated, you won’t feel like having sex. But the amount of water you drink per day will probably not have any impact on your orgasm. It could have an effect on your digestive system, weight and energy levels. A healthy lifestyle helps you to function better sexually. ‘It’s also possible that you’ll struggle with your vagina’s lubrication when you’re severely dehydrated,’ says Dr Rudolph. The pill can affect your libido Oral contraceptives lower your testosterone levels, which is the hormone that ensures you function optimally on a sexual level. When you take oral contraceptives, you could find yourself being less interested in sex, and it could be harder to become sexually stimulated. Dr Mulder Craig says another contraceptive is advised in such cases. There are products available (also in pill form) that might not have as much of an impact on your sex life. Orgasms can make you more creative Regular orgasms release feel-good hormones and can even relieve light depression, Dr Mulder Craig says. They can also give you self-confidence. In that sense, they can enhance your creativity. We all have the same pleasure zone Your clitoris is the most important organ for sexual satisfaction and orgasm, says Dr Mulder Craig. It comprises 8 000 nerve endings – and stimulation of these nerve endings ensures your orgasm. There’s no difference between a clitoral and vaginal orgasm. Orgasm increases fertility The rhythmic contractions you feel during an orgasm is your uterus trying to gather sperm cells. According to Dr Mulder Craig, there’s research to prove this, so orgasm can increase your fertility. However, many women who don’t reach orgasm still fall pregnant. Gynaecologist Dr Jen Guntera says a majority of medical studies show women’s orgasms have little to do with the transport of sperm cells. Dr Rudolph concurs. “Sperm cells are chemically attracted to egg cells, so they don’t need to be ‘gathered’.” Busy mind equals no orgasm “You’re unique in terms of what you need and what works for you in order to orgasm,” says Dr Mulder Craig. “Again, it’s about more than nerve endings. It’s also about emotional intimacy, whether you feel safe, relaxed and in the moment; are comfortable and know your body; and allow yourself to orgasm. If you think about everything you still need to do, you can forget about an orgasm.” All women can orgasm Most women are “built” for it, says Dr Mulder Craig. “I do, however, see many women in my practice who have been inorgasmic for their entire lives or suddenly find themselves in this position.” In these cases, it’s important to determine the cause. It can be biological, physiological or psychological. An orgasm is, after all, more than just the contraction of your pelvic floor muscles. It’s an experience that includes your body, soul and spirit.
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