All your office romps questions answered


The rules are different when it comes to flirting, sex and dating in the office. We answer the most common questions about office romps. Screen Shot 2016-06-09 at 11.11.55 AM My boss promised me a promotion in return for sexual favours. Should I? This is one of the most common forms of sexual harassment, usually followed by veiled threats that failure to sleep with the boss will adversely affect your performance score and salary raise, or even cost you your job. Don’t even contemplate this age-old trick as it can only lead to problems. Even if your boss holds a top position, nip this one in the bud by simply not entertaining his advances. Be professional and show that you’re clued up on your rights and know how to exercise them. Also show that you’re appalled by the suggestion, and he’ll most likely retract and pretend it was a joke. If nothing works, speak to a labour lawyer and your HR department about how you can approach this legally. I got very drunk at an office party and embarrassed myself. I feel I should resign. Help! This is something that you can’t take back. If everyone makes a joke of it and laughs it off, then you’re lucky, but your colleagues feel disgusted by your actions, you may have trouble ahead – someone might lay a complaint. But before you hand in that resignation letter, ask your HR representative about the likely outcome of a disciplinary process and weigh up your options. A colleague I dated is trying to blackmail me with pics. What should I do? Opening a case of extortion against him will get police to investigate his behaviour. Scorned exes may turn out to be emotionally psychotic, and since we’ve established that he may fall in this group, you can get a protection order against him for causing you psychological trauma. You could also enlist a lawyer for an interdict to prevent him from publishing these pictures on any platform. Can you get fired for flirting? Most definitely, if your flirting offends the person at whom you are directing your comments, stares or touches. This may land you in a disciplinary process, which can lead to you losing your job. My bestie just got a warning from HR for sexually harassing her male colleague. Is this possible? Cases of women sexually intimidating their male colleagues are becoming more common. Experts say this number has doubled in the past decade, with an estimated 10% to 15% of all cases reported coming from male victims. I am in love with my boss. Should I make a move? Love in the workplace may have the worst PR out there in terms of leaving your reputation in tatters, but if you’re sure it’s mutual, go for it. Many relationships start at work, though it’s against many company policies. So, tread carefully. One night I walked in on two of my colleagues having sex in the office. Should I report them? Yes. They may either get reprimanded or placed in a disciplinary process. This is why companies should have clear policies about sex in a workplace.

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