Are you competing with your partner?


While ambition sits at the top of many people’s list of characteristics for a perfect partner, in some relationships this can easily become competition. So how do you deal with a competitive partner? 72540924 Many Hollywood couples often have to compete with each other for roles in big productions, awards, endorsement and success. And some cite this as the reason why their relationships fail. With us mere mortals, it may be career or business success, who makes more money, who has the coolest friends and who commands more attention when they walk into a room, and some even want to beat each other at who has a more toned body than the other. A little competition can help you achieve your goals, but don’t let get out of hand because it can destroy an otherwise good relationship. Here’s how to handle it: Don’t play dirty Be kind to one another and avoid playing dirty. Don’t call each other names or constantly remind the loser of how useless they are in whatever activity or goal you were going for. Complement each other and be supportive even if your partner is winning. Be patient with your partner You’ll find that, you have some things in common, but others not so much. Since relationships are about compromise, both of you should be willing to try something that they love to do. And if they do take the time to support you, be appreciative instead of showing off by outshining them. Remind yourselves why you love each other Put your relationship first and always remember that you’re both in the same team. Some couples even compete for their children’s affection, which is unfair to the parent who often has to play bad cop. So remind each other of why you’re together and reassure your partner of your unconditional love. Work as a team, especially when it comes to raising children. Get to the root of your problem Are you trying to impress your partner or are you insecure? It may be a good idea to really look at the meaning behind it and discuss it with your partner. Maybe, you’re both doing it to ensure a good future for your family, or just want your partner to be as successful as you, so you keep pushing them. Whatever the reason, it must come from a good place where you’re both allowed to be who you are and do what you love.

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