Are you his option or priority?


No one wants to find that they’re not a priority in a relationship. It’s a hard realisation to come to, and many people ignore the signs, hoping things will get better. If he does one of these things it’s time to reassess your relationship.


He doesn’t invite you to important events

If you’re really on top of his priority list, you’d be invited to important events and gatherings. However, when your name isn’t on the guest list then you have to consider the possibility that you’re far from being his priority. It’s not because he doesn’t want a partner to attend the event with, but he wants to go with with someone else. But when he goes out drinking with his friends you’re the first to be invited.

Plans with you are last minute

He doesn’t make plans in advance. He never planned a date or an outing just for the two of you; if it happens he invites you to one it’s always a last-minute thing. There is probably a long list of people who declined an invitation to go out before you were considered. The only time you get to spend time with him is when it’s last minute. If you’re really that important to him he will go all out to plan something nice for both of you.

You don’t remember details of your life

He never shows any interest in your life or the things that you do on a daily basis. When you do talk about things, he doesn’t remember. If he really cared about you, he would pay attention to every word you’re saying. Even the little details of your life should be important.

He doesn’t answer your calls or texts

He never answers your calls or texts unless he needs something from you. The only time you get his attention is when he’s really bored and wants you to be his entertainment. Come on! In this day and age, everyone is attached to their phone; he has seen your calls and decided not to reply. You aren’t important enough for a person to warrant an immediate and prompt reply.

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