Are you in love or obsessed?


You’ve scored yourself the man of your dreams, and can’t stop thinking about him. While this is great, be careful not to cross the line and be too obsessed with your bae.

Obsession in a relationship is not good. In fact, it can destroy a relationship. If you’re not sure about how far you’re taking it, read on and find out.
  • You can’t help but be consumed with thoughts of him all day and night.
  • You know stuff about him that he has not told you about yet.
  • You want to see him everyday, and get heart palpitations if he is busy and can’t come to see you.
  • You have Google-d him and stalked him on social media.
  • The word ‘privacy’, does not exist in your vocabulary. You snoop around when at his place. According to you, he should have no problem giving you access to his phone and laptop; and you feel should have the key to his apartment as well.
  • You’re jealous of everyone that gets any attention from your man.
  • When you count the number of texts you sent to him, you know you are stalking him.
  • Your friends now roll their eyes and try to change the subject every time you talk about your man because they are getting a bit sick of it. You are starting to hate them because you think they are jealous.
  • You have no time for anyone else in your life except for your man. If you’re not with him, you’re doing things for him, or snooping for more information about him, his family, friends and even exes.
What to do If you recognise yourself in these signs, you need to do something about it pronto before it destroys your relationship.
  1. Speak to a therapist. This behavior usually stems from a deeper issue. It may be your past experiences that are causing you to act this way. While you want a good relationship, you may have been so hurt in the past that you’re secretly sabotaging your relationship because you don’t want to deal with the hurt that my come as a result. A trained professional can help guide you.
  2. Think about how you’d hate it if the roles were reversed. You’d probably dump this guy, fearing he may just be psychotic. He’ll probably feel the same way once he figures out that you are a bit obsessed.
  3. Remember that you’re still dating this man, and a key to his apartment does not come mandatory. You have to have honesty and build trust in your relationship before taking things to another level. Know that he has a life of his own, and as you get to know each other, you’ll learn more about him without having to snoop around, being jealous, and suspicious.
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