Bring back the spark


Our busy lives can distract us from having healthy and intimate sex. Learning how excitement back into your love life is easy. Commitment and a willingness to learn can get you back on track. Here’s how:

 1.Be playful Avoid using words such as “plan” and “schedule” for sex. They’ll only make you and your man feel resentful and uninspired .Sex should be an invitation to pleasure, not a duty to be endured. Think of it as creating opportunities for intimacy. 2. Pay attention Your partner needs to know that you still find him attractive. Complement the way he looks and thank him for the little things he does for you, such as making you tea in the morning. 3. Put a new spin on it The main reason sex in long-term relationships dwindles is boredom, so change it up! Direct your energy toward finding something new. Sex is an appetite, so you have to create new tastes and sensations. Move to a different room, turn the lights on, add a different lotion or introduce a sex toy. Buy a book of sex positions and take turns choosing which ones you’d like to try 4. Create anticipation The sexual thrill of the early days of your relationship was in some part due to the will-we-or-won't-we factor. You can recapture that mystery, even if you've been married for decades. 5. Focus on connecting Don't worry if you don't have toe-curling sex every time. Who can live up to that kind of pressure? You’re not trying to out-do your 20-something selves. Focus on reigniting the sensuality and playfulness as a way to reconnect with each other. Use your sex life as a way back to the days when you both were at the top of each other's lists. Tip: It’s important to remember to turn off your cell phones, get off Facebook and stop tweeting when you want to get it on. Sex is not something to multitask.
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