Can you date your friend’s ex?

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Girls consider that dating your friend’s ex- boyfriend is breaking girl code, “Friend’s ex-boyfriends are off limits.” But in celebrities all of the dating rules is different to them, Joe Jonas from the musical band Jonas brothers dated Taylor Swift and later started dating Gigi Hadid, an official member of Taylor's girl squad. But is dating a friend’s ex really a coldest thing one woman can do to another? Let’s find out.

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The answer is yes you can and it not a worst thing to date your friends ex but you just have to be prepared that you might lose her and there are few things to keep in mind before going ahead;

Break- up

To be real break ups are rarely clean and maybe your friend still have feelings for her ex, some people take time to let go. According to Psychology Today, if you think you’re interested in a friend’s ex, consider the nature of the break-up before you proceed. There are times when a relationship ends with no strings attached – perhaps your friend even feels guilty about breaking up and says that person wasn’t right for him or her, but thinks that you might like them. That could be a green light that it is okay to go forward.

Let your friend know about your feelings

You just have to be upfront about it to your friend. Authenticity is that secrets ruin relationships It is always safe to be honest. “Finding yourself attracted to your friends ex doesn’t mean you’re villain. Call her or talk to her in person (no texting) and explaining your feelings. It’s not fun or fool proof, but it’ll be so much better for her than catching a glimpse of you two together on social media, says Brandy Engler,Ph.D., author of The Women on My Couch.

How long they’ve dated

If they’ve dated for so long it never a good move to date him because couples may break up for a short period but then get back together, or at least cling to the possibility that they might and where would that leave you? If they only dated for a short time yes you can go ahead it doesn’t throw his ex into that off limits territory.

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