You might be delaying your own happiness.
‘If I get that job I’ll be happy?’ or ‘I promise if I could have that car I’d definitely feel like I’ve made it’ or ‘Maybe I should consider locating.’ – does this sound familiar? It could mean you’re a destination addict because you associate happiness with a moment or a level of achievement.
Life coach Robert Holden says, “this addiction is a major block to success. People who suffer from destination addiction believe that success is a destination. They are addicted to the idea that the future is where success is, happiness is, and heaven is.”
If you’re always unhappy with where you are you can be putting stress on yourself. Being permanently impatient because we are addicted to the pursuit of progress could be hurting us.
Here are symptoms of Destination Addiction, according to Holden:
- Whatever you are doing, you are always thinking about what comes next.
- You cannot afford to stop because you always have to be somewhere else.
- You are always in a hurry even when you don’t need to be.
- You always promise that next year you will be less busy.
- Your dream home is always the next home you plan to buy.
- You don’t like your job but it has good prospects for the future.
- You never commit fully to anything in case something better comes along.
- You hope the next big success will finally make you happy.
- You always think you should be further ahead of where you are now.
- You have so many forecasts, projections, and targets that you never enjoy your life.
Maybe you should take the time to enjoy the journey and where you are currently instead of thinking that the next best thing will bring you joy.