She isn’t shy admit her past mistakesBefore, it was all about staying relevant. So what’s the best way to be relevant? Being dramatic, I thought. It worked for a little while because that stupid media strategy made me feel important. Don’t get me wrong, I also wasn’t lying about who I was – I’m generally an energetic and outspoken person. But I overdid it. It came to a point where I had to scrutinise the kind of feedback I got: was it positive or negative? I got a fair share of both, but more of it was negative.
She’s able to reflect on her growthIn your 30s, you come to understand that you don’t owe anyone anything. I owe it to myself to be a sensible woman; to be calm and relaxed. I’m ready to chill; to not feel like everyone can dictate the terms of who I should be.
She’s excited about her new venture as a cookI’ve always loved cooking, but it took a different form altogether this year when I was in the middle of my annual 40-day fast. I go on a dry fast on 1 January every year. I didn’t know I would arrive at a point where I’m standing in a kitchen and am happy to say I’ll be making food for the rest of my life. Sure, I’ll produce TV shows and do other things, but ultimately, food is my vibe now. I didn’t know it was such a big talent of mine until now.
She’s open with her life experiencesI’m not a sangoma because I didn’t go through the initiation, as is often assumed.
She gives great wisdom to fans and othersTake time with yourself. Be kind to yourself. You may turn 30 or 40 and feel like you haven’t achieved much, but shift focus from your insecurities and put all your energy into the progress you’ve made thus far. Let’s become women who pray because beauty comes from talking to God.
Our cover star says more on motherhood, dating and love in the April issue of TRUE LOVE out on shelves now.