Excuses women make to stay in bad relationships

accreditation

Relationship dynamics differ and the manner in which we deal with them can sometimes make you overlook the fact that you’re in bad relationships.

Screen Shot 2017-03-22 at 3.01.10 PM

‘Men are all the same’

This is a broad term used very loosely. Drilling this in your head can make you believe that leaving a toxic relationship will have no benefit as the next guy you meet will probably treat you the same way. This isn’t true; men have similarities just as women do, however they differ in their own right, so be careful not to miss out on happiness because of this belief.

‘We have a child together’

Most women want to raise their children in a stable home with both mom and dad, however its not good for your children to grow up in a dysfunctional and unhappy home. This is one of the many pressing issues many women in bad relationships face because obviously parents want what’s best for their kids, but they end up suffering more from witnessing you cry all the time.

‘I don’t want to be alone’

Being afraid to be alone can result in low self-esteem because you end up feeling like you’re not worthy of love. Having babies and being unemployed are one of the many reasons women feel they can’t be loved hence they stay in bad relationships. This mentality should change as there’s always someone out there who is willing to love you with all your baggage and who would even motivate you to better your life.

‘I’ve accepted that’s the way he is’

He messes up knowing that you will forgive him for anything, regardless of how bad it can damage you or the relationship. There’s only so much that you should keep up with and when he starts doing you wrong without showing any remorse, you need to leave.

‘I made him do it’

Often, you blame yourself for how your person turns out.You hope forgiving him or taking the responsibility will change him for the better. Things like “I shoud have dressed better’, ‘I should have been more domesticated’, or ‘I should have not introduced him to my friends’ are some of the things women normally say to justify their men’s wrongdoings. This is a sign of losing control. Change this by showing him that he’s wrong and and make him own up to his mistakes. Leave him or ask for a break until he shows remorse, but of course this applies to issues that are forgiveable.

We live in a world where facts and fiction get blurred
In times of uncertainty you need journalism you can trust. For only R75 per month, you have access to a world of in-depth analyses, investigative journalism, top opinions and a range of features. Journalism strengthens democracy. Invest in the future today.
Subscribe to News24