First date rules


A first date can be many things, but most importantly, every first date you go on could be an opportunity to meet the love of your life. So, if you want to win him over, you better make sure you get your act together.


Let him lead

If he wants to pay the bill, let him pay. Remember that he’s nervous and is trying to figure out first-date rules, too. If you need something, tell him and he’ll ask a waiter. Give him an opportunity to pamper you. You’ll have plenty of time in the future to figure out gender-roles if you develop to a relationship.

Don’t drink too much

You don’t want to find yourself being carried by someone you barely know or crying at the dinner table. A glass of wine is fine to help loosen the mood because we all know first dates can be very awkward. But it’s always nice to get to know each other sober.

Put your phone away

There’s nothing more rude than trying to have a conversation with a person who’s constantly staring at her phone. Your Facebook and Instagram friends are not invited on the date so checking your posts can wait. You need to give your date your undivided attention and be an active listener too.

Dress well

First impressions matter, yes, but so does comfort. Don’t wear things that you can’t walk, eat and breathe in. Pick an outfit that makes you feel great, look great, doesn’t reveal too much and is age-appropriate. First dates induce anxiety but being uncomfortable in your own clothes can make things worse.

Don’t pick expensive place

To make things fair on the person who will be paying for the bill don’t choose a place where a glass of wine costs an arm and leg. Be considerate of the fact that you may have different budgets and if you insist on ordering expensive three course meal in a fancy restaurant, you’d better well pay for it.

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