MOTHERING WITH INTENT
Dineo is having an absolute blast raising her two cubs — it’s palpable from how endearingly she speaks about them. “Kgosi is nine going on 30, and Kopano is six going on 55,” she quips, adding that her children are her biggest cheerleaders. “If they like my mix, they usually respond with a song, complete with dance moves, that goes, ‘Printing paper mommy!’. When I’m not mixing well, they will blatantly tell me, ‘You’re not allowed to get paid for that one!’” she gushes. “Motherhood, for me, is friendship. My children are growing while I still have the energy to play with them and the discipline not to be careless in their presence.”
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Describing her own relationship with her mother, Dineo loves that Mama Nonceba accepts her for who she is. She finds that most people have unfair expectations of her. Her eyes swell up as she dissects this point. And to hide these uninvited emotions, she lowers the front of her cap. “There is a certain mould, or type of woman that society puts up with, and I’m expected to be that. I have seen this in romantic and industry relationships. Because of my refusal to conform, I’ve been at the receiving end of the worst kind of rejection,” she recounts.