Identify that you’re relationship is toxicThe first port of call is to acknowledge that you’re in a toxic relationship. This will be determined by the way the other person makes you feel, how they treat you, what is it that you’re gaining from the relationship, is the other person willing to change and do you want to stick around in the relationship or not
Have boundaries in placeWe’re responsible for the way in which people treat us, and the only way to succeed with this is to have boundaries in place. Tell the person you’re in a relationship with how you’d like to be treated, regadless of the power they have over you, im referring to our parents and bosses. Your mother has a tendency of using emotional blackmail everytime she ask’s for something? We recommend that your response goes something like “mom you can ask me for anything but if unable to provide at that particular time you need to respect that and know that I will fulfill your request when time allows me “.
Have a good communication structureThe success of any relationship is based mostly on communication. Bottling things up does more harm than good to any relationship, talk to your partner, state what it is that’s making you unhappy and work towards it together. Changing your communication structure can start with something as small as using words like “I feel” instead of “its your fault”, remember communcation is a two way street hence both of you need to work at it, do this without manipulating the other person.
Take a break from one anotherIf it gets too much, its always a good idea to step away from the situation to analyse what is it that you have contributed towards the “drama”. Examine if the relationship has a chance of surviving and the main question to ask yourself is, is this relationship worth the trouble?, If not keep it moving.
Practice self loveToxic relationships can take up so much of our energy that we often tend to forget about the most important person, you. Take some time to do things that bring you satisfaction. It could be playing your favorite musical instrument if youre a musical person. Eating out at your favorite restaurant or playing sports. This will boost your confidence and bring your esteem back.