TRUE LOVE’s Percy Matshoba shares the journey she took to love her natural hair.
After two and a half years of being an ‘Afro girl’, I am happy to say that I’ve finally reached a deep appreciation for my hair. In the beginning, I was compelled by the spirit of ‘uBuntu’, of celebrating ‘the self’ and the perfection of God’s creation.
But, as time went by, my heart began to waver, I lost all appreciation for it and I subconsciously adopted the negative criticisms against natural hair. I contemplated using relaxer creme on it countless times – these thoughts were mainly provoked by hairdressers who were not impressed by my ‘choice’ of hair texture. Before I knew it, I started thinking of my hair as a burden. What kept me going was not a deep conviction, but a deep fear of letting down all those who had looked up to my ‘courage’ of keeping my natural hair in this ‘weave generation’.
I have now found, however, that the so-called burden of natural hair is simply caused by the lack of effort in nurturing it. As with all things natural, nurturing it is fundamental to working with African hair strands.
I have recently found that the reason my hair was dry, painful and hard to maintain was because I expected it to be well kept without any efforts from my side. I have learnt however that the rules of any relationship definitely apply to my relationship with my mane.
Just as with any relationship, I needed to put half the effort to help the relationship grow into a healthy and happy one. Just as every relationship builds and develops differently, it was important that I found key ingredients that would work for my hair texture. These consisted of miracle hair products designed just for natural hair and, most importantly, for my specific brand of hair texture. They provided the right ingredients that have helped my hair to be maintainable, soft and a joy to wear; and I must say that I am happy I never gave into peer pressure. Now, my mane is still growing stronger, and we are happier than ever before.