Your boyfriend’s female friend works on your nerves, and you’re not sure how to deal. Here are six tips on how to handle the situation. Don’t be jealousIt’s easy to feel neglected when your man spends time with his female friend. Don’t jump into conclusions – find out about their relationship. She could be a childhood friend who’s always had his back, or someone who helped him out of a situation, which led to their friendship. Jealousy can destroy a relationship as your partner may feel that you don’t trust him. Rather show interest on their history and how they got to know each other. Talk to your manIf you still feel icky about the friendship, talk to your partner and let him know that you have reservations about his friend. It will probably hurt him, but it will hurt more people in the long run if you keep it a secret. Explain your reasons to him It’s well known that women sometimes dislike each other for no reason and guys just don’t get it. Unless you hate every other person you’ve met, he will probably be able to understand why you feel this way. Once you have made your point, be gracious Don’t make rude or nasty comments every time he mentions his friend in the future. Let it go. Think about how important your friends (even the crazy ones) are to you and how you’d feel if your partner insulted them, when he has not even taken time to get to know them. When it comes to gatherings or meet- ups that include the female friend Try to go and enjoy it, or decline the invitation. If you choose to attend, avoid interacting with her or be nice and show genuine interest on her. This could be an opportunity to make a new friend yourself if you feel like she’s a cool person. But if you can’t see yourself hanging out with her, be cordial about it; greet and smile and find something to keep you busy. She’ll have no reason to think you’re a bad person, and your boyfriend will notice you being nice to his friend. Take time to get to know herThink about it, your boyfriend may think that you hate his friend, and try to keep you two from each other. But you may resent her even more when they regularly keep in touch with each other and you are excluded. If she is a good person, give her a chance; if she’s bad influence, then put your foot down.
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