You’ve finally realised that the affair is a mistake and you want to leave but are unsure how. Read on to help free yourself from an affair the right way.
According to Dr Tammy Nelson, sex and relationship expert, ending an outside relationship with integrity and bringing all of yourself back into your marriage is actually the best way to end the affair and move on.
Keep yourself occupied and read explanations of why you need to end the affair.
End it unquestionably
Be firm; not inconsiderate. You would prefer not to annoy your partner or irritate them into attempting to blackmail you. Let him know about the guilt and the fear your affair is causing you. Nelson suggests that, “you let them know that you will continue to care about them, but that you can no longer speak on the phone or answer their emails.”
Get rid of any traces
Any photos, messages or recordings that could place you in an unfortunate situation need to be discarded. He might be pissed that you’re ending the affair and get back to you by exposing it to your partner.
Pick flaws in your affair
An affair may seem exciting because it usually only revolves around sex. Try to bring in a bit of real life into the affair, and you’ll see how he’ll change his behaviour. Basically what you have with your affair partner is not what you have with your solid partner.