How to introduce sex toys


Experimenting with sex toys is one of the most instantly satisfying, most fun, and exciting ways to spice up your relationship. However, telling your partner about trying sex toys can be a bit tricky. Don’t worry; here are tips to help you bring up the topic or talk about sex toys as a couple.

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Do research

Understand the sex toys you want to introduce; that will help put him at ease if they have doubts. Obviously when you tell him about sex toys he will have some questions so you must be prepared to answer them.

A digital ice breaker

If you’re too shy to talk to him face to face you can email him a link to a sex toys website and ask “What do you think about this?” You can then discuss things in more detail later, once you’ve broken the ice, and your partner has had time to think things over and prepare for the conversation. One more thing; don’t send this naughty link to his work email address.

Conversation starter

One of the ways to ease the subject of sex toys into a conversation is to connect the toys to something your partner is already doing. For sure he already knows how to touch your sensitive spots, so build on his skills: “Wow! It felt so good when you touched me down there. I’d love to try it with some vibrations.” You can also try opening a discussion by mentioning that you watched a television programme where sex toys were part of the plot.

Pick the right time

While there is no right time to introduce the idea of sex toys into the bedroom, bringing it right before or right after sex is not a wise move because your hormones and emotions are running high. He may think he’s no longer satisfying.

Reassure him

Reassure your partner that you feel it will help you add more fun and reach a new level of intimacy. Offer lots of reassurance and appreciation for your already hot sex life, so that your interest in sex toys isn’t perceived as a complaint.

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